Episodes

  • The Truth Set Dupe Witherick Alcohol Free #63

    The Truth Set Dupe Witherick Alcohol Free #63
    Nov 20 2024

    Podcast host, author, and coach Dupe Witherick describes herself as a “normal drinker.” Unlike common stereotypes, her relationship with alcohol didn’t involve a dramatic rock bottom—instead, she had seamlessly woven drinking into her daily life and identity. Dupe joins Ray to share how alcohol shaped her university years, professional life, and social interactions. It wasn’t until a personal loss and the upheaval of the COVID-19 pandemic that she began to question her reliance on alcohol. What started as a 21-day alcohol-free challenge blossomed into nearly five years of sobriety, renewed well-being, and a deep connection to faith and a higher power.

    Dupe’s Toolkit:

    • Pause and reflect on why you’re drinking

    • Ask yourself what emotion you’re feeling

    • Replace drinking with productive activities

    • Embrace new activities

    • Believe in yourself

    • Find supportive communities

    • Have faith or believe in a higher power

    • Pursue new passions and dreams

    • Self-worth is critical

    • Listen to your intuition

    Dupe’s details

    Instagram: @thrivealcoholfree

    TikTok: @thrivealcoholfree

    Thrive Alcohol Free Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/thrive-alcohol-free/id1707202708

    Thrive Alcohol Free: https://www.thrivealcoholfree.com/

    Book - A Cocktail of Clarity: How to Ditch Drinking, Embody a Joyful New Identity and Thrive Alcohol Free: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0C3MNVZQS


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    Website:⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.stackndays.com/⁠⁠⁠

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    YouTube:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC-IqvFJ2SlufC6KuyiztjQ⁠⁠⁠

    Resources

    ⁠⁠⁠https://www.samhsa.gov/⁠⁠⁠

    ⁠⁠⁠https://www.joinreframeapp.com/⁠⁠⁠

    ⁠⁠⁠https://www.theluckiestclub.com/⁠⁠⁠

    ⁠⁠⁠https://www.aa.org/
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    1 hr and 8 mins
  • From Life of the Party to Truly Enjoying Life: Jasmine Rogers' Awakening #62

    From Life of the Party to Truly Enjoying Life: Jasmine Rogers' Awakening #62
    Nov 13 2024

    Ray sits down with Jasmine Rogers, whose journey to becoming two years sober from alcohol, has been anything but straightforward. The duo explores what it truly means to live authentically — the challenges, the triumphs, and the unexpected moments of growth. This is Jasmine’s second time in sobriety. Her first lasted a year, and then when she thought she was “cured,” she relapsed even worse. The staying factor is she always remembered the clarity sobriety gave her. So she started seeing a therapist, was encouraged to go to AA. Raising her son gave her a higher purpose to continue living alcohol-free. She went from being the life of the party to encouraging others through her own actions to seek a life unhindered by substances. It’s raw, inspiring, and filled with moments that will leave you rethinking what it means to live on your own terms.

    Jasmine’s Toolkit:

    • Reflect on what makes you genuinely happy

    • Set boundaries

    • Advocate for yourself

    • Embrace solitude as a way to grow

    • Prioritize mental and emotional health

    • Try new things

    • Try old things you forgot you loved

    • Reach out to community

    • Jasmine’s details

    • Instagram: @soulfully_sober

      TikTok: @soulfully_sober

      Connect with the show

      Website:⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.stackndays.com/⁠⁠⁠

      Apply to be a guest:⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.stackndays.com/rsvp-1⁠⁠⁠

      Instagram and Tiktok: @stackndays

      YouTube:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC-IqvFJ2SlufC6KuyiztjQ⁠⁠⁠

      Resources

      ⁠⁠⁠https://www.samhsa.gov/⁠⁠⁠

      ⁠⁠⁠https://www.joinreframeapp.com/⁠⁠⁠

      ⁠⁠⁠https://www.theluckiestclub.com/⁠⁠⁠

      ⁠⁠⁠https://www.aa.org/
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    58 mins
  • Recognizing the Need to Change with Andry Rakotoniaina #61

    Recognizing the Need to Change with Andry Rakotoniaina #61
    Nov 6 2024

    Ray connects deeply with guest Andry Rakotoniaina as they share experiences from the food and beverage industry. Andry opens up about how, as the eldest in an immigrant family, he faced immense pressure, especially after his father’s passing. Alcohol became an escape from these heavy responsibilities, but over time, it took control of his life. With a career in the restaurant industry, where alcohol was always within reach, the journey wasn’t easy. Today, Andry is co-founder of the Kentucky chapter of Ben’s Friends, supporting hospitality workers in sobriety. This powerful conversation dives into addiction, the strength to break free, and how recovery can transform lives.

    Andry’s Toolkit:

    • Recognize Industry Risks

    • Acknowledge the Allure

    • Address Family Pressures

    • Honesty is Key

    • Watch for Normalized Habits

    • Find the activities that bring you joy

    • Embrace Your Cultural Identity

    • Seek Sober Role Models

    • Accept That Change is Gradual

    • Celebrate Sobriety

    Andry’s details

    Instagram: @willpedal4brew

    Ben’s Friends Hope: https://www.bensfriendshope.com/

    Connect with the show

    Website:⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.stackndays.com/⁠⁠⁠

    Apply to be a guest:⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.stackndays.com/rsvp-1⁠⁠⁠

    Instagram and Tiktok: @stackndays

    YouTube:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC-IqvFJ2SlufC6KuyiztjQ⁠⁠⁠

    Resources

    ⁠⁠⁠https://www.samhsa.gov/⁠⁠⁠

    ⁠⁠⁠https://www.joinreframeapp.com/⁠⁠⁠

    ⁠⁠⁠https://www.theluckiestclub.com/⁠⁠⁠

    ⁠⁠⁠https://www.aa.org/
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    1 hr and 16 mins
  • Conversations with My Younger Self: Lunic Adisson-Boyd's Journey of Faith, Resilience, and Self-Love #60

    Conversations with My Younger Self: Lunic Adisson-Boyd's Journey of Faith, Resilience, and Self-Love #60
    Oct 30 2024

    Ray catches up with Lunic Adisson-Boyd, a licensed minister, advocate for spiritual growth and entrepreneur and founder of God is Great Apparel, about her journey from addiction to recovery. Once living it up, Lunic eventually faced the harsh realities of substance abuse, especially when it comes to past trauma, and realized she needed to make a change. With a mix of humor and heartfelt honesty, she discusses how faith, community, and a bit of divine intervention helped her turn her life around. She encourages listeners to embrace grace, recognize their purpose, and empower themselves through service and entrepreneurship.

    Lunic’s Toolkit:

    • Embrace faith, spirituality and purpose

    • Build a support network:

    • Prioritize Self-Compassion:

    • Practice kindness toward yourself

    • Consider therapy

    • Stay away from things that take you back to your vice

    • Volunteer or engage in service

    • Acknowledge your fears and confront them

    • Stay open to change

    • Practice mindfulness and reflection

    Lunic’s details

    Instagram: @iamlunicthemessenger

    God is Great Apparel Instagram: @godisgreatapparel

    Website God is Great Apparel: https://www.godisgreatapparel.com/

    Resources mentioned in the show:

    Narcotics Anonymous: https://www.narcotics.com/na-meetings/

    Connect with the show

    Website:⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.stackndays.com/⁠⁠⁠

    Apply to be a guest:⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.stackndays.com/rsvp-1⁠⁠⁠

    Instagram and Tiktok: @stackndays

    YouTube:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC-IqvFJ2SlufC6KuyiztjQ⁠⁠⁠

    Resources

    ⁠⁠⁠https://www.samhsa.gov/⁠⁠⁠

    ⁠⁠⁠https://www.joinreframeapp.com/⁠⁠⁠

    ⁠⁠⁠https://www.theluckiestclub.com/⁠⁠⁠

    ⁠⁠⁠https://www.aa.org/
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    1 hr and 14 mins
  • Therapy, Love, and Pickleball: How I’m Working Through The Challenges of Sobriety #59

    Therapy, Love, and Pickleball: How I’m Working Through The Challenges of Sobriety #59
    Oct 23 2024

    Grief, time, love and...pickleball. In this week's solo episode, Ray reflects on the past three years of his sobriety journey – what he considers the most challenging and deeply reflective years of his life. He opens up about the emotional weight of grief, the impact of aging family members, and the role of therapy in maintaining his sobriety. This podcast has become a therapeutic outlet. He talks about the importance of his Black female therapist, the lessons time teaches in recovery, and the importance of finding joy and levity along the way.

    Connect with the show

    Website:⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.stackndays.com/⁠⁠⁠

    Apply to be a guest:⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.stackndays.com/rsvp-1⁠⁠⁠

    Instagram and Tiktok: @stackndays

    YouTube:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC-IqvFJ2SlufC6KuyiztjQ⁠⁠⁠

    Resources

    ⁠⁠⁠https://www.samhsa.gov/⁠⁠⁠

    ⁠⁠⁠https://www.joinreframeapp.com/⁠⁠⁠

    ⁠⁠⁠https://www.theluckiestclub.com/⁠⁠⁠

    ⁠⁠⁠https://www.aa.org/stclub.com/⁠⁠⁠

    ⁠⁠⁠https://www.aa.org/⁠⁠⁠

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    43 mins
  • Rerun: Get Sober and Stay Sober as a Person of Color with Tammi Scott, Sober for 27 Years

    Rerun: Get Sober and Stay Sober as a Person of Color with Tammi Scott, Sober for 27 Years
    Oct 16 2024
    There’s a lot happening here at Stack'n'Days headquarters, and we’re excited to share some big personal updates with you next week in a brand-new solo episode! But today, we’re re-airing a fan-favorite conversation from episode 37 with Tammi Scott. Tammi’s journey, from being a single mother of three to getting sober in a 12-step program and staying sober for 27 years, is incredibly relatable. Now, as a yoga teacher and mentor in the sobriety space, she uses the lessons she’s learned to guide others. In this episode, she talks about coming home to yourself, especially as a Black woman in the U.S. Tammi’s Toolkit: 12 steps program Yoga Therapy Writing Learning about self compassion Hiking Community The Early Struggles Tammi opens up about her early days as a single mother of three, using alcohol and drugs to cope. Overwhelmed and internally struggling, it took a therapist's insight to link her substance use with her depression, sparking the beginning of her self-discovery journey. The 12-Step Program Tammi shares her journey into the transformative 12-step program, underscoring its pivotal role in her recovery. Her first AA meeting marked a turning point, providing a sense of community and resonant stories. Tammi stresses the importance of supportive communities and mentors in the recovery process. Holistic Healing As Tammi progressed in recovery, she explored holistic healing modalities like yoga and writing. These practices deepened her self-understanding and offered comfort and grounding. Tammi emphasizes the significance of self-compassion and cultivating kindness towards oneself. Ongoing Growth Throughout the episode, Tammi acknowledges that recovery is an ongoing process. She urges mindfulness against complacency and emphasizes prioritizing sobriety, even during stable periods. Healing as a Woman of Color Tammi's experience as a woman of color has had a significant impact on her journey of recovery. Throughout her early days of sobriety, she faced the double-edged sword of being a person of color in predominantly white spaces. She felt the weight of societal expectations and the lack of support for women of color in professional settings. This added layer of complexity made it challenging for Tammi to fully express herself and find her place in the recovery community. Additionally, the racial injustices and violence against people of color deeply affected her, but she struggled to find understanding and empathy within the 12-step community. Despite these obstacles, Tammi has persevered and found her own path to healing and self-discovery, embracing her identity as a black woman and using her experiences to uplift and support others. Current Involvements Tammi is actively involved in facilitating sober support community meetings and co-teaching online sober courses both at The Luckiest Club. Her passion lies in sharing experiences and assisting others in their recovery journeys. Tammi plans to teach yoga, focusing on heart-centered work and creating spaces for healing and self-discovery. Tammi’s details Instagram: @QueenieT_ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/alwayseverinward?mibextid=ZbWKwL⁠ Connect with the show Website:⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.stackndays.com/⁠⁠⁠ Apply to be a guest:⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.stackndays.com/rsvp-1⁠⁠⁠ Instagram and Tiktok: @stackndays YouTube:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC-IqvFJ2SlufC6KuyiztjQ⁠⁠⁠ Resources ⁠⁠⁠https://www.samhsa.gov/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.joinreframeapp.com/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.theluckiestclub.com/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.aa.org/
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    53 mins
  • Creating Safe Havens: Kristen Feemster on the Power of Inclusive Recovery Spaces #58

    Creating Safe Havens: Kristen Feemster on the Power of Inclusive Recovery Spaces #58
    Oct 9 2024

    In this episode, Ray sits down with Kristen Feemster, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and wellness coach, to talk about her powerful journey through addiction and recovery. A former college athlete, Kristen opens up about how the pressure to be perfect as a Black woman, growing up in a mostly white community, and other life stressors led her down a path of alcohol addiction. She shares the pivotal moments that made her realize she needed to change and the people and inclusive spaces that helped her along the way. Kristen also dives into the importance of having a strong support system, why open conversations about mental health and addiction matter, and the resources out there for anyone looking to heal their relationship with alcohol.

    Kristen’s Toolkit:

    • Find safe professional spaces to recover as a person of color

    • Seek therapy

    • Loved ones leaving a compassionate, loving space to seek help

    • Take the scary step to seek help

    • Be honest with yourself

    • Take note if you’re becoming defensive about the substance you’re using

    • Don’t worry about perfectionism

    • Connect to sober communities on social media/ podcasts

    • Physical activity

    • Create a routine sleep schedule

    • Education on alcohol and its effects

    • Spirituality of some kind

    Kristen’s details

    Instagram: @kristenfeemster

    Facebook: B3 by Kristen

    YouTube: @kristenfeemster

    Website: B3 by Kristen

    Resources mentioned in the show:

    She Recovers

    Sober Black Girl’s Club

    B3 by Kristen

    Connect with the show

    Website:⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.stackndays.com/⁠⁠⁠

    Apply to be a guest:⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.stackndays.com/rsvp-1⁠⁠⁠

    Instagram and Tiktok: @stackndays

    YouTube:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC-IqvFJ2SlufC6KuyiztjQ⁠⁠⁠

    Resources

    ⁠⁠⁠https://www.samhsa.gov/⁠⁠⁠

    ⁠⁠⁠https://www.joinreframeapp.com/⁠⁠⁠

    ⁠⁠⁠https://www.theluckiestclub.com/⁠⁠⁠

    ⁠⁠⁠https://www.aa.org/
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    1 hr and 8 mins
  • Leonard Murphy’s Path to Healing Generational Trauma and Finding Purpose #57

    Leonard Murphy’s Path to Healing Generational Trauma and Finding Purpose #57
    Oct 2 2024
    Certified Sober and Life Coach Leonard Murphy shares his powerful journey through alcohol use, addiction, multiple relapses, and, eventually, recovery. Growing up with an alcoholic father, Leonard witnessed the damage alcohol can cause. He began drinking in college for confidence but soon spiraled into heavy use, impacting his marriage, children, and relationships. When his wife left with their children, Leonard realized the toll alcohol had taken on his life. After relapsing post-divorce, the death of his aunt from alcohol-related issues became his turning point. He entered rehab, embraced trauma therapy, and uncovered the root of his addiction, ultimately learning to forgive his father. Now, Leonard helps others in early sobriety find purpose and create a plan for their lives through his organization Empowered Through Sobriety. He emphasizes not just surviving but thriving in sobriety, focusing on spirituality, physical health, emotions, and finances. Leonard also shares strategies for supporting those in relapse and highlights the importance of community, particularly for men of color. Through prayer, meditation, and structure, Leonard leads a fulfilling life in recovery while inspiring others to do the same. Leonard’s Toolkit: Ask for help – don’t suffer in silence Understand where your trauma comes from Speak to a therapist Forgive yourself and others Address spirituality, physical health, emotions, and finances in early sobriety Have a schedule and develop consistency Relapse is not failure Prayer and meditation in the morning and at night Workout Reach out to old friends who will support your sobriety Strong sober community in person and online Leonard’s details Instagram: @empoweredthroughsobriety TikTok: @empoweredthroughsobreity Facebook: Empowered Through Sobriety YouTube: @EmpoweredThroughSobriety Website: https://www.empoweredthroughsobriety.com/ Connect with the show Website:⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.stackndays.com/⁠⁠⁠ Apply to be a guest:⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.stackndays.com/rsvp-1⁠⁠⁠ Instagram and Tiktok: @stackndays YouTube:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCC-IqvFJ2SlufC6KuyiztjQ⁠⁠⁠ Resources ⁠⁠⁠https://www.samhsa.gov/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.joinreframeapp.com/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.theluckiestclub.com/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.aa.org/stclub.com/⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠https://www.aa.org/⁠⁠⁠
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    1 hr and 19 mins