Welcome to the fourth annual Psycho Lover Halloween special edition episode of Simpin After Dark, where I get into submissions from you, the listener! Karagan joins me to talk about IAMDDB's 2023 single, "Where did the Love Go?", which is about choosing yourself and remaining true to yourself no matter what. There's some fun lines in there that lead us to talk about the type of men that are obsessed with their homeboys and spend all their time with them, and give all their effort to them, while neglecting their girlfriends. We also talk about the negative impact that the ego can have in a relationship and why you should be wary of someone with too much ego, or of you yourself having too much ego. Then we get into the submitted Psycho Lover story about revenge porn, and share some tips on how to protect yourself, and also the legal side of what happens if you are ever in that predicament. We talk celeb drama about Lori Harvey, Drake, and Doja Cat, and end with reading some hate comments from incels and broke mean men on our viral TikTok video about avoiding cheap frugal men.

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Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)

I'm doing a full in depth review of Kali Uchis new album, Red Moon In Venus. The album beautifully explores themes of romance, self love, and sensuality. It tells the story of a new relationship blooming from the honeymoon stage, and going through the natural cycle of insecurities and problems arising, while learning to navigate everything the universe throws their way. It's super relevant and has plenty of fun lyrics to relate to, about your man being on his phone too much, or him starting to get too comfortable and slipping up in his efforts to keep the relationship strong. It all wraps up with the song, "Happy Now", that leaves us feeling like everything's gonna work out and that happiness is a decision we can commit to if we know the love is real.

I end the episode touching on some topics from last week's episode that I wanted to expand on. I saw a TikTok of a girl talking about her horrible experience getting a cervical biopsy, so I share my traumatic experience of an attempt at getting an IUD, and my thoughts on birth control and women's healthcare. After that I expand on Esther Perel's idea that partners in long lasting relationships, have their own private sex lives, and I relate it to Stanley Kubrick's movie, Eyes Wide Shut, and the idea of private fantasies and how they can hurt or benefit your relationship. I end with a short segment on the importance of remaining independent while in a relationship and the difference between codependence and interdependence. This is the season finale, so follow me on Instagram and TikTok for updates about Season 7!

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Today I have another amazing reoccurring guest, ceci bendita, join me to talk about KAROL G's new song, "TQG", featuring Shakira, from her new album, Mañana Será Bonito. It'a all about thriving after leaving someone who could never handle you and was ultimately holding you back. Both of these baddies have been thriving in their lives and careers, after moving on from dusty lames that couldn't keep up and were never equipped to be a queen. Both their relationships were heavily publicized, so watching the drama go down from the outside has added its own layer to the mix, which the music video played into, and needs to be dissected. Most of us are not famous, but can probably relate on a level to that added layer, when we take into account how social media has publicized our own lives to a certain extent.

We get into cheating as a cultural "norm" in Latino culture, and how some men have secret second families. We dig into why this happens and how it relates to purity culture and the madonna whore complex. We talk about Esther Perel's observation that couples in long lasting relationships each have their own private sex lives, and what that even entails. Is it normal to develop crushes while in a relationship?

Then we talk about a twitter thread where gamers were venting about how gaming is their only escape from life, as men, because they can't talk to people in real life. It can be toxic to remain in a victim complex, and it can be extremely detrimental to a relationship when you neglect your partner and make them feel like they can't be there for you.

We also talk about how more women are choosing to remain childless and why it's important to normalize it and have more representation. People don't talk enough about the realities of it, and it's important so that women can make informed decisions.

Next week is the finale episode to season 6, so make sure to follow me on TikTok and instagram for more content and any updates <3

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Intro song - Lo-fi Type Beat - Dreaming (Prod. Lee)