What does a natural physical escalation look like? ✋ Physical touch varies from person to person, even within a shared culture. Some people see certain things as friendly that for others are way too intimate, or are only comfortable going slower or faster.

🥋 Julian met Jose's brother learning Tae Kwon-Do. They started hanging out, and later invited Jose to join them. She didn't think much of it until almost a year later, when they started spending a lot of time together. So much time, in fact, that her friends kept asking if something was going on. She even went on a trip and he was the first person she was texting every day! That's when she realized that... she might like him 🤔

😱 After the realization set in, the fears showed up: what if it didn't work and she lost both a partner and the friendship? Fortunately, she was quite sure he liked her back. They were both comfortable with physical touch with each other, which is not always the case.

🎧 If you've been wondering how fast is too fast, or if there's a right or wrong way to break the physical barrier with someone, give this episode a listen!

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Timestamps for lazy nerds:

00:00:00 Intro

00:00:56 Her Brother's Friend

00:04:02 Hanging Out 1-on-1

00:07:40 Fears Around Liking Your Friend

00:15:23 Leaving the Friend Zone

00:19:58 Breaking the Touch Barrier

00:25:41 Differences in Styles of Physical Touch

00:33:49 Checking if They're Comfortable

00:37:07 Testing for Interest

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Do you need to go fast to "avoid the friend zone"? But what if you're shy? And what if they're socially anxious? Fast or slow depends on how comfortable both of you feel. Steven and Christin were close friends for several years before anything happened.

Sometimes the transition from friends to something more is quick and abrupt. Other times, it can take months or years of smooth and gradual change. 🧘‍♂️

🏘️ Even though they grew up in a small German village of 600 people, Steven only remembers becoming aware of Christin around his teenage years. But it wasn't until many years later, when he left to study and came back to visit, that their deep friendship turned into a romantic relationship.

🎧 Listen to this story if you feel rushed by the common dating advice that gives you a specific number of dates before you end up in the "friend zone"!

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Timestamps for lazy nerds:

00:00:00 Intro

00:00:26 Steven's Hobbies

00:01:32 Growing Up In a Small Village

00:03:01 Are Your Hobbies A Turn-Off?

00:05:20 Becoming Close Friends

00:06:22 Changing Cities

00:07:45 From Friends to Lovers

00:11:52 Taking Your Time

00:14:29 Shy, Introverts, and Social Anxiety

00:16:38 Do Dating Tactics and Strategies Work?

00:19:10 How Long Does It Take?

00:22:31 Leveling Up Your True Self

00:28:42 Be Confident and Know What You Want

00:30:48 Steven's Contact

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Is it a date or two friends hanging out? Do you need to clarify? Is it wrong to confess by text? What about asking to hold hands? These are some of the questions we explore in the story of Lud and Mati.

🧝‍♂️ After meeting as part of a nerd group within their local Tolkien Association, Mati decided to take Lud on a date. But... she didn't know that it was a date! They spent months as friends, with him trying to know if she was interested, and her assuming that they were just friends.

🎲 With multiple critical fails in the middle, it took a common friend to bridge the gap between them.

🎧 Listen to this story and realize that, sometimes, even with many Natural 1s, you can still beat the game. 👾

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Timestamps for lazy nerds:

00:00:00 Game Start

00:01:43 Finding Nerd Friends

00:04:17 First Meet at a Tolkien Bar

00:06:42 Friends or date? Unclear!

00:08:47 Building Relationships

00:10:28 Critical Fail on a Physical Touch Check

00:11:53 Not a "Proper Date"

00:13:55 Second not-Date

00:15:57 Indirect Confession

00:18:54 Failed Confession via Text

00:22:01 Do you like your friend?

00:25:19 Asking to Hold Hands

00:26:43 Confessing vs. Escalating

00:31:38 Advice for Single Nerds

00:33:54 The Power of Friendship

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