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It’s easy to see when other people are continually difficult and in need of healing, but sometimes we can’t see that we are the one that is hurting – not them! Today Quinn discusses how easy it can be to point the finger at others for their unhealthy behavior but the importance of taking time to ask ourselves, “Am I the one that needs healed?”

In today’s episode, Quinn teaches listeners:

1. 6 Indications we are hurting
2. A question to ask yourself regarding your future that shows we need to heal
3. 3 Steps to take when we are hurting

Mind Renewal Tip:
It’s not our fault we get in unhealthy places but it’s our responsibility to notice and take action.

Scripture Renewal Tip:
"But those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint"
Isaiah 40:31

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In today’s episode, Quin discusses the unhealthy pattern of trying to express yourself and your needs toward someone you love and feeling like that person consistently receives your needs as an attack on them.

In response to that, Quinn teaches listeners how to break that pattern by:

1. Understanding the difference between attack versus communication
2. Disarming statements to use to help a discussion go well
3. Tips by Dr. John Gottman for creating soft start up in a conversation

Mind Renewal Tip:
Focusing on what you need someone to do versus what someone did wrong disarms a person’s defensiveness.

Scripture Renewal Tip:
The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice. Proverbs 12:15
7 Ways to Soften Start Up by John Gottman

1. Take responsibility
2. Complain without blame
3. Start with “I” Statements
4. Describe what is happening
5. Be polite
6. Be Appreciative
7. Don’t let things build up