In Episode 11, Part 2 of Real Talk, we delve deeper into the vital topic of preparing for family blending when one or both partners have children from previous relationships. This episode is essential for couples contemplating the merging of families, finances, and lifestyles. Join us as we discuss the critical conversations that need to take place before taking this significant step. We will address parenting styles, financial goals, and emotional readiness, providing insights that can help establish a solid foundation for a successful family blend. With open communication and thorough preparation, you can navigate the complexities of blending families and foster a supportive environment for all.

In this heartfelt and insightful episode of Pickens' Realities: Our Blended Family Truths, we welcome special guests Calvin, aka Caliko (our regular resident videographer!), and his fiancée Dee Dee. As they prepare to merge their families in anticipation of their 2025 wedding, Calvin and Dee Dee open up about their journey of prepping to blend Dee Dee’s son from a previous relationship with Calvin’s three children from his previous marriage.

Together, they share their background as a couple who has been dating for three years and discuss their hopes, concerns, and plans for creating a united, encore blended family.

Jessica and Tyrone draw from their now 22+ years of blended family experiences to offer practical advice, answer questions, and provide valuable tips on what to do—and what not to do—when preparing to blend families. Whether you're newly engaged, in the process of blending, or simply curious about navigating blended family dynamics, this episode is packed with wisdom and encouragement for building a strong foundation for your new family. Tune in for a candid conversation filled with love, laughter, and actionable insights to help blended families thrive!

In part 2 of episode 10, Jessica, Jayla, and special guest, Cheryl Shumake continue discussions of the compounding stresses of being Black in America and being part of a blended family. They also discuss the lack of existing church ministries and programs designed specifically to support blended families, and how that further puts blended families at risk.

Cheryl Shumake is the Executive Director of Sawubona Blended Families and Founder of Stepmom Sanity. Cheryl shares her personal journey as a stepmom and the realities of navigating life in a Black and blended family and also shares the inspiring story behind the creation of Sawubona Blended Families, an organization dedicated to supporting and empowering blended families in Black and Brown communities.

With 40% of marriages with kids today being blended families, we aim to raise awareness among church leaders, ministries, and community organizations, to encourage them to recognize the unique and complex dynamics of blended families. Our hope is for church and other relevant program leaders to acknowledge the need for blended family supports by creating impactful programming and resources that empower these families to thrive. Let’s spark a movement to ensure blended families feel seen, supported, and equipped for success.