Mark chats to the magnificent Lisa Lloyd about the judgement they regularly receive from outsiders as parents of neurodivergent kids. Lisa has two children - an 11-year old boy (diagnosed autistic) and a 7-year old girl (diagnosed autistic, with a PDA profile) and, as a prominent content creator on social media (@asd_with_a_g_and_t), she is no stranger to being judged by people who don't have a neurodivergent child, much less a clue about how to raise one.

Mark and Lisa swap tales about comments they receive from people judging their children ("He's not autistic, he's just naughty"), judging their parenting ("He wouldn't act like that if he was my son") and judging the entire concept of neurodivergency ("It's just a label"). They discuss the misconceptions that cause people to act this way, as well as the appropriate responses you can give them in return.

This is a great one to listen to if you've ever been told that "He doesn't look autistic" or "Everyone's a bit on the spectrum".

LINKS TO STUFF WE MENTION IN THIS EPISODE:

Raising the Sen-Betweeners, Lisa Lloyd - https://amzn.eu/d/4hm6Sb0

SEND Reform England - https://www.sendreformengland.com/

Lisa Lloyd Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/asd_with_a_g_and_t/

Lisa Lloyd TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@asd.with.a.g.and.t

Lisa Lloyd Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/ASDwithGandT

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Mark discusses the innate human desire to "keep up with the Joneses" with returning guest Samuel Wilson, who is an author and parent of two children: an 8-year old daughter (on the autism pathway, with Cerebral Palsy, Cerebral Visual Impairment and Sensory Processing Disorder) and a 5-year old son (suspected neurotypical).

They discuss how unhelpful that can be in the early days of your diagnosis journey and how liberating it is when you finally let go of the expectations of being "normal" and embrace your family in all of their neuroshambolic glory.

LINKS TO STUFF WE MENTION IN THIS EPISODE:

Simpsons clip - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=784seqWxsMk&t=469s

Dad La Soul - https://www.dadlasoul.com/

BBC Woman’s Hour - https://www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/m0022ss7

India Croc replacement saga - https://www.instagram.com/p/C9hLMewpBH6/

"Lend a Hand", Samuel Wilson's book - www.littlestepspublishing.co.uk/books/lend-a-hand

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A potentially controversial episode, this one, where Mark chats to an old friend, Kate Ebbutt (Mum to 11 year-old neurotypical and 9-year old diagnosed ADHD/suspected autistic humans). They talk candidly about something they've both found themselves worrying about in their darker moments - am I raising an arsehole? They dissect the behaviours that qualify someone as being "an arsehole" and discuss to what extent they can be fairly applied to our neurodivergent kids.

They also discuss to what extent the gentle parenting approach could be contributing to this behaviour, as well as recounting experiences of times where they've had to explain their parenting choices to neurotypicals who struggle to understand their approach.

Please note, if you are offended by the word arsehole, it is sprinkled liberally throughout the episode, so this one might not be for you.

LINKS TO STUFF WE MENTION IN THIS EPISODE:

"The Explosive Child" book - https://drrossgreene.com/the-explosive-child.htm

Gentle Parenting - https://www.parents.com/parenting/better-parenting/style/what-is-gentle-parenting/

National Trust - https://www.nationaltrust.org.uk/

RAM (Random Access Memory) - https://www.ign.com/articles/what-is-ram

Sheffield Queer Parents - https://sites.google.com/view/sheffield-queer-parents

Angling 4 Education - https://www.angling4education.com/

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