• #139: The Mental Load Myth: Why Moms Deserve Help (and How to Get It)
    Jan 28 2025

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    ADHD Cliff's Notes:

    1. We speak with Emily King, Founder and CEO of Faye, a company that matches busy families with advisors to help manage the mental load. Emily created Faye after becoming a mother and realizing how difficult it was to keep up with her family's personal to-do's, and how little support there was for parents.
    2. Faye fills a much-needed void: providing affordable help for busy families who do not have the means to hire full-time personal assistants but benefit from fractional help—it also creates part-time gig opportunities for women to monetize a skill set they typically don't get paid for.
    3. Emily breaks down the type of work a Faye assistant can do—imagine someone who can "think like you" and act on your behalf as project manager. Here's what's on the table: Staying on top of appointments, scheduling, booking travel, coordinating activities, organizing school emails, finding and coordinating professionals like housecleaners and handymen, saving money by cancelling subscriptions you don't use, shopping around for insurance, activities, providers, etc.
    4. While Faye can help with practical solutions, the mental health component is profound: the relief of knowing someone else is carrying the burden with you can be extremely emotional.
    5. "We have been set up to fail." Modern motherhood feels like an impossible math equation. We talk about the trap of moms being expected to work full-time and juggle full schedules while also being expected to manage the mental load.
    6. We discuss the added struggles of having ADHD in addition to being a parent in this busy, digital era, including decision fatigue and executive functioning challenges.
    7. The belief that we should be able to do all of this ourselves, despite the impossible standards, is what keeps so many moms from asking for help.
    8. Emily sees a shift that is a reason for hope: more and more women are willing to say that they deserve it, they don't question it, and they are willing to outsource this type of work.
    9. Make sure you are using your energy the right way—it matters!

    About Emily King:
    Emily King is the CEO and co-founder of Faye, a service designed to help parents get more done with the help of trusted family advisors. These advisors handle everyday tasks—like scheduling appointments and organizing family travel—so moms can breathe.

    As a working mother herself, Emily knows firsthand how impossible the juggle can feel. Her journey to launching Faye was fueled by her own experience navigating parenthood while excelling in demanding leadership roles—like serving as VP of Growth & Digital at Blue Bottle Coffee and more than a decade across consumer tech brands like Nextdoor, Good Eggs, and LivingSocial. She lives in Ogden, Utah, with her husband, Patten, and their daughter, Vivian.


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  • #138: There's A Lot Of Shame In Admitting, "This Is Really Hard": A Conversation On Motherhood With NYT Bestselling Author & Kidnap Survivor Jessica Buchanan
    Jan 21 2025

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    In this monumental episode, we sit down with Jessica Buchanan—kidnapping survivor, New York Times bestselling author, and advocate for women’s empowerment—to delve into her extraordinary journey of navigating motherhood in the wake of unimaginable trauma.

    Jessica shares her motherhood journey as chronicled in the 3rd book of her anthology series, Deserts to Mountaintops. Despite surviving 93 days as a hostage in Somalia before being rescued by a U.S. Navy SEAL team ordered by President Obama, Jessica reveals that motherhood was the experience that truly shook her to her core.

    "It wasn't actually the kidnapping and rescue that had rocked my world so much: it was motherhood."

    Jessica’s vulnerability in addressing the complexities of motherhood resonates deeply. She sheds light on the shame many women feel about their struggles in motherhood and how society conditions us to “shame ourselves into gratitude." Through her story, Jessica gives permission to mothers everywhere to acknowledge their hardships without guilt.

    We also explore:

    • The Consequences of Ignoring Intuition: Jessica reveals how ignoring her intuition led to life-altering consequences and explains why trusting our inner voice is vital for reclaiming our power.
    • Distinguishing Intuition from Anxiety: Together, we unpack the fragile line between intuition and intrusive thoughts, offering strategies to discern one from the other.
    • Reclaiming Our Voices: Jessica explains why solitude and stillness are essential to reconnecting with our inner wisdom and building a life aligned with our true selves.
    • Motherhood Without Self-Abandonment: Jessica introduces us to the revolutionary concept of the “good enough mother,” inspired by Winnicott, and emphasizes the importance of living a life that’s yours too.

    About Jessica:
    Jessica has been named one of the ‘150 Women Who will Shake the World’ by Newsweek, and her story was the most highly viewed 60 Minutes episode to air, to date. Jessica is a highly sought after inspirational speaker and her TEDx Pearl Street talk, ‘Change is Your Proof of Life’ has been the foundation for which she travels the world, inspiring audiences to access their resilience by identifying their own autonomy and chance in the middle of their own life-changing event

    As the founder of Soul Speak Press, she empowers women to reclaim their narratives through writing. Her upcoming anthology, Deserts to Mountaintops: The Pilgrimage of Motherhood, launching January 25th, 2025, is a testament to the strength of women’s voices and the healing power of shared stories.

    If you’re in Colorado, don’t miss the chance to join Stace and Steph live for Reclamation: The Fempi

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  • #137: How to Regulate Your Emotions When You’re “Too Sensitive”: A Conversation About RSD with Dr. Rebecca Richey
    Jan 14 2025

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    In this episode of the Mother Plus Podcast, we continue our deep dive into Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) with Dr. Rebecca Richey. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by rejection, criticism, or failure, this episode offers practical tools to help you manage your emotional responses and regain control.

    Four Tools for Managing RSD:

    1. Community Matters
      Surround yourself with people who understand your ADHD experience. Having "your ADHD people" in your corner—friends who won’t judge or dismiss your feelings—can make all the difference.
    2. Therapy is a Game-Changer
      Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) techniques like recognizing when you're catastrophizing or generalizing are powerful tools. Dr. Richey shares her strategy of "putting your thoughts on trial" to help defuse emotionally charged situations. Pro tip: Seek a therapist experienced with RSD.
    3. Self-Understanding Brings Calm
      Recognize when you’re having an RSD response. Simply saying, “This is my RSD talking,” can help you pause and stay mindful until your cognitive clarity returns.
    4. Practice Self-Compassion
      Self-compassion is a crucial habit to cultivate. Dr. Richey stresses that being kind to yourself is the foundation of managing RSD effectively.

    Special Topics Covered in This Episode:

    • Parenting and RSD: Learn how to recover and repair relationships when your child’s behavior triggers feelings of rejection.
    • Misdiagnoses and ADHD: Dr. Richey discusses the overlap of symptoms between ADHD and other conditions, why many women are misdiagnosed, and the importance of getting the right diagnosis.
    • Advocacy Alert: Partners, parents, and friends—this is for you. Understanding RSD and its impact can make a world of difference in your relationships with ADHD women.

    Dr. Rebecca Richey, Psy.D., MBA, serves as the Clinical Director at CWHC, overseeing therapy, psychological evaluations, group programs, and integrated care services. A triple-licensed mental health professional with nearly 20 years of clinical experience, she specializes in psychological testing for women, including ADHD diagnosis.

    Dr. Richey’s career highlights include serving as an Assistant Professor at the University of Colorado School of Medicine, where she directed behavioral health services and training programs. She is a Past President of the Colorado Psychological Association and currently chairs the APA’s Committee on Early Career Psychologists. With expertise in integrated care, leadership, and advocacy, she is passionate about advancing mental health for women.

    Website: https://cowomenscare.com/

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  • #136: Why ADHD Women Are ‘Too Sensitive’: A Conversation About RSD with Dr. Rebecca Richey
    Jan 8 2025

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    Have you ever been told, “You’re too sensitive,” or felt like a minor rejection hit you like a gut punch? If so, you might relate deeply to this episode. We’re thrilled to welcome back Dr. Rebecca Richey, an expert in women’s mental health, to break down Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) and its impact on women with ADHD.
    In this episode, you’ll learn:
    🎙️ What RSD is and why it feels so intense, both physically and emotionally.
    🎙️ How vulnerability and shame are tied to RSD, especially for girls and women with ADHD.
    🎙️ Why minor stressors—like a rude comment—can feel as devastating as major life events.
    🎙️ How RSD triggers rumination, anxiety, withdrawal, and overcompensation.
    🎙️ The link between RSD, anxiety, and the unique challenges faced by ADHD women.

    Through personal stories and expert insight, we uncover how RSD can transport us back to a younger, insecure version of ourselves and “take our cognitive processing offline.” Dr. Richey also shares why this phenomenon is so under-researched—hint: it primarily impacts women—and how it differs from anxiety.
    If you’ve ever asked yourself, “What’s wrong with me?” after a tough interaction or felt shame you couldn’t shake, this conversation will leave you feeling seen, validated, and better equipped to understand your emotional world.

    👉 Hit play now to dive into this honest, eye-opening discussion about RSD and ADHD in women!



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  • #135: Herbal Healing for ADHD Moms: Adaptogens, Immune Boosts, and Rituals with Jane Barlow
    Dec 17 2024

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    *Use code MotherPlus10 to get 10% off your first order at Barlow Herbal*

    In this episode, we sit down with herbalist Jane Barlow to explore the transformative potential of plant medicine. Jane shares her insights on shifting from a reactive to a proactive approach to health, addressing root causes instead of just treating symptoms, and embracing herbs as part of a balanced wellness plan.
    We dive into:

    1. Mindset Matters: Why having an open mind and being brave is essential when introducing herbs into your health routine.
    2. The Best of Both Worlds: Jane’s vision of pairing Western medicine with herbal remedies for optimal health—and why more people are turning to natural solutions.
    3. Adaptogens for ADHD: How these incredible herbs help manage modern stress by calming your nervous system and alleviating anxiety, particularly for the ADHD community.
    4. Cortisol and Fight-or-Flight: The toll ADHD takes on your adrenal system and how herbal support can help break the cycle of chronic stress and overwhelm.
    5. Jane also shares practical tips, including:
      • Why Tinctures Work Wonders: The science behind tinctures as a fast, effective way to absorb herbs, bypass digestion, and cross the blood-brain barrier.
      • Immune Health Essentials: Jane’s top herbal picks for staying healthy during cold and flu season, with a spotlight on her favorite herb: lomatium.
      • Elevating Your Rituals: How to incorporate herbs into your daily rituals to create deeper connections and greater well-being.
    6. And don’t forget—ADHD moms, this one’s for you! You deserve to feel good. Prioritizing your health is not a luxury; it’s a necessity.
      If you’ve been curious about the healing power of herbs or looking for ways to feel calmer, healthier, and more balanced, this episode is packed with practical advice and inspiration to get you started.

    About Jane:
    Jane's father founded Barlow Herbal over 60 years ago, and she has been immersed in his craft ever since. Working side by side with him in the field, she mastered the art of identifying the perfect harvesting seasons, as well as the intricate processes of drying, processing, and crafting potent herbal extracts. Jane’s lifelong experience and her ability to capture the earth’s strength make her a true expert in her field.

    Her passion for the beauty industry, combined with her expertise as a Master Herbalist, gives her a unique edge in creating highly specialized health and beauty products. Building on her father’s legacy, Jane dedicates years to meticulous research and formulation, ensuring every product she develops is one she wholeheartedly uses and endorses.

    Find Jane here:
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    *Find your people and a rich library of rituals to get

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  • #134: 'I Don’t Know What I’m Doing'—An ADHD Mom’s Worst Fear (And How to Overcome It)."
    Dec 11 2024

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    Do you ever feel like you’re drowning in responsibilities, unsure of what to do next, or terrified by the thought that you don’t have it all figured out? You’re not alone. In this solo episode, Stacey dives into the raw, relatable experience of ADHD moms who constantly feel like they’re falling short—and what we can do about it.

    Join Stacey as she unpacks:

    • Why ADHD moms often feel lost and overwhelmed.
    • The common (but ineffective) advice of "just get organized."
    • A powerful, alternative approach: getting found by reconnecting with yourself.
    • How morning rituals like movement, meditation, EFT, and journaling can transform chaos into clarity.

    What You’ll Learn:
    Stacey shares her personal rituals, including how they’ve helped her drop fewer balls, prioritize what matters, and live with intention. Whether it’s through guided visualizations, tapping through anxieties, or writing your future self into existence, this episode will inspire you to meet yourself where you are and step into a more centered, confident life.

    Free Resource for Listeners:
    As a special gift, Stacey is offering a free guided visualization straight from the Rituals Library. This meditation helps you imagine a day where you know what you’re doing and feel calm, confident, and in control.

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    Ready to Go Deeper?
    If you loved the guided visualization, the Rituals Library is for you. With meditations, EFT videos, journaling prompts, and an accountability community, it’s the ultimate resource for ADHD moms ready to reclaim their peace and purpose.

    Join today for just $20/month: www.motherplusser.com/centered

    Community Shout-Out:
    Hear what our members are saying! Jenny C. shared how our “Ritual of the Day” transformed her routine. “It’s scary how much I needed this.”

    You don’t have to do this alone. Join us as we support each other in building rituals that help us find ourselves again.

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  • #133: Mom’s First ADHD Christmas: Letting Go of Traditions and Creating a Holiday That Fits
    Dec 3 2024

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    ADHD Cliff's Notes:

    1. In this solo episode, Steph talks about the things that have shifted in her family's holiday traditions in this season of life and reads her Listen To Your Mother Boulder story, "Mom's First ADHD Christmas."
    2. During a post-divorce era of raising teenage daughters, Steph is learning to let go of old traditions that they have outgrown. . . and some of it is a sweet relief.
    3. Applying the ADHD lens to the holidays: which activities bring out our creative ADHD superpowers, and which ones feel like tedious tasks requiring too many executive functioning skills to feel joyful.
    4. Embracing what is can be an essential element of a peaceful, fun holiday—this can mean letting go of things that no longer work, accepting shifting seasons of parenting, and allowing for happiness right where you are.
    5. Steph confesses to the parts of the holiday season that feel anything but magical to her—stuffing stockings, playing Tooth Fairy, and hiding Easter eggs.
    6. She shares the beautiful side of holidays with teenagers—and an ADHD household—and celebrates the new rituals and changes that have brought ease.
    7. Understanding her ADHD brain has helped Steph find new ways to adapt during the holiday season to avoid unnecessary stress—how can you make small changes to accommodate your neurodivergence during a stressful season?
    8. Join Stace and Steph for Reclamation: The Fempire Strikes Back on Thursday, December 5th. This all-female storytelling + stand-up comedy event is at Muse Performance Space in Lafayette from 7:00-8:30 pm. Tickets available here.

    Ready to bring calm, clarity, and connection into your life as an ADHD mom? The Rituals Library is here to help you finally stop spinning your wheels and start creating lasting peace.

    With guided meditations, EFT tapping videos, journaling prompts, and transformative workshops, this library is your one-stop shop for rituals that work with your ADHD brain—not against it. From practical tools to spiritual practices, you’ll have everything you need to reclaim your time, manage your energy, and feel more present in your life and with your family.

    Plus, when you join now, you can lock in the special $20/month founding members rate! Don’t wait to start feeling less frazzled and more centered—because you deserve a life that feels good, not just one that looks good.

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  • #132: Martha Stewart, Perfectionism, The Power of Homemaking, And Being Unapologetic
    Nov 19 2024

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    In today’s episode, we’re diving into the life and legacy of Martha Stewart—not just as a media mogul, but as a woman who changed the way we think about homemaking. Inspired by the recent documentary on her life, we’re asking big questions: What does it mean to be unapologetic as a woman? How can homemaking become a source of power rather than a chore? And why do we critique ambitious women differently than men?

    Join Stacey in this solo episode as she explores Martha’s story and what it reveals about perfectionism, gender biases, and the impossible expectations placed on women today.
    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    1. Opening Thoughts:
      • Why Martha Stewart’s documentary evokes such strong emotions—pride, frustration, and everything in between.
      • How her story is not just about her but about us, as women and moms navigating modern expectations.
    2. Who Is Martha Stewart? Why Does She Matter?
      • From model to Wall Street broker to homemaking icon: a look at Martha’s journey to building a media empire.
      • How she redefined homemaking, turning it from a "get through it" task into an art form—and why that matters.
      • The cultural shift she led in the 1980s and 90s, elevating homemaking during a time when it was undervalued.
    3. Work Ethic or Perfectionism? Why Martha’s Confidence Polarizes:
      • Exploring the gender biases that make us see ambitious women as "unlikable" or "too much."
      • Why qualities like being direct, bold, and unapologetic are admired in men but critiqued in women.
      • Stace’s reflections on the discomfort and admiration Martha’s confidence inspires.
    4. Homemaking as a Source of Power:
      • How Martha reframed homemaking as a way to care for yourself, not just others.
      • Stace’s journey with ADHD and homemaking: why creating an intentional home environment matters for mental clarity and peace.
      • The double-edged sword of Martha’s perfectionism: empowering or exhausting?
    5. Reflection: What Martha Means Today:
      • Stace’s small but meaningful takeaways from the documentary, like making the bed and adding personal touches to her home.
      • How Martha’s story teaches us to respect our spaces and ourselves—even if our version of homemaking isn’t “Martha-level.”
      • The broader lesson: balancing ambition and likability as women in today’s world.
    6. What now?
      • Watch the Martha Stewart documentary if you haven’t already.
      • Reflect on your own relationship with homemaking and perfectionism.
      • Share your thoughts on Instagram and tag us (@motherpluspodcast) or email us at hello@motherplusser.com—we’d love to hear your takeaways!

    Resources Mentioned:

    • Netflix Documentary: Martha
    • Rituals Library (Link to your Rituals Library offering, if relevant to the episode!)
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