Last episode we walked through how couples develop alongside how they are both developing as adults. This week we talk about how to grow within your relationship. First, you both get your own feelings and secondly, seeing how your partner may trigger you as a moment to learn something about yourself.

Here is the quote I shared in the episode:
"If you are willing at look at another person’s behavior toward you as a reflection of the state of their relationship with themselves rather than a statement about your value as a person, then you will, over a period of time cease to react at all” -Yogi Bhajan

I’m your host Tami Zak, an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist and a Relationship Coach. Not only do I bring my training and experience as a therapist and coach to the podcast, I bring experience from a long-term marriage - I have been married to my partner for over 25 years. All of this informs the advice and knowledge I am sharing with you.

To get my 25 Ways to Increase Your Relationship’s Magic Positive Ratio, sign up at https://tami.ck.page/25magicratio. Per last episode, I'll also be sharing the couples development cycle with you once you sign up.

This week we start a new series - Relationships as People Growing Machines. The first episode in this series is walking through the couples development cycle developed by The Couples Institute and looking at how this combines with Kegan's theory of adult development. All of this leads to understanding how the best relationships are people growing machines. The next episode will then explain how to help your relationship to be a people growing machine.

Here is the link to the Medium article on Kegan's Theory of Adult Development.

I’m your host Tami Zak, an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist and a Relationship Coach. Not only do I bring my training and experience as a therapist and coach to the podcast, I bring experience from a long-term marriage - I have been married to my partner for over 25 years. All of this informs the advice and knowledge I am sharing with you.

To get my 25 Ways to Increase Your Relationship’s Magic Positive Ratio, sign up at https://tami.ck.page/25magicratio. Per today's episode, I'll also be sharing the couples development cycle with you once you sign up.

Now we look at the instructions - not how to put together the argument but how to break it down so you can understand it - you both create this pattern or cycle of argument together. That means you can stop it together and communicate in a new way. Today's episodes offer the instructions for how to take this step and actually communicate - listen and hear each other in order to connect.

I’m your host Tami Zak, an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist and a Relationship Coach. Not only do I bring my training and experience as a therapist and coach to the podcast, I bring experience from a long-term marriage - I have been married to my partner for over 25 years. All of this informs the advice and knowledge I am sharing with you.

To get my 25 Ways to Increase Your Relationship’s Magic Positive Ratio, sign up at https://tami.ck.page/25magicratio.