Listening Better: A No-Conflict Way to Start Rebuilding Your Marriage

On Reconciling Marriages with Coach Jack, Christian psychologist, author, and relationship coach, Dr. Jack Ito, shares practical strategies to restore and strengthen marriages. In this episode, you’ll learn why listening better is one of the simplest and most effective ways to improve your relationship—without conflict.

What You'll Learn:

• Why traditional active listening doesn’t create emotional connection—and what does
• How to use validation to make your spouse enjoy talking with you more
• The link between being a good listener and being a more valuable partner
• Practical ways to match your spouse’s emotions and build deeper connection

Start building a stronger connection today.

If you want your spouse to enjoy talking with you more and feel more connected, improving how you listen is a great place to start. For personalized guidance in rebuilding emotional connection, explore Coach Jack’s Re-Connections Coaching Package.

Key Takeaways:

• Validation, not just understanding, is what makes people enjoy talking with you.
• Being a good listener increases your value in your spouse’s eyes.
• Emotional connection is more important than practical help for long-term relationship success.
• Having a positive mindset about your spouse makes listening easier and more effective.
• Good listening leads to better boundaries, less resistance, and a stronger marriage.

Additional Resources:

• Connecting through "Yes!" (book) – Learn how to agree with your spouse in difficult situations while maintaining your own values.
• Free Downloads – Get tools to make your spouse enjoy talking with you more. Scroll to the bottom of CoachJackIto.com and click "Downloads."
• How to Get Your Husband or Wife to Listen to You (article/podcast). – Because sometime you need to be the one to talk.
• Understanding Gender Differences in Communication for Better Connection (article/podcast). – Learn to communicate better with the other sex.