Have you ever been called "un-ladylike"? In this episode we go over what "ladylike" means, doesn't mean & what to do about your ladyhood when society is telling you that you are wrong for being you! Show Notes/Transcript: Welcome to Life Against The Grain Podcast. I’m your host Nikki Marie. Wife, Mother, Mental Health Advocate & Generational Wellness Coach. If you are ready to redesign your life according to your desires & your morals but are feeling trapped by the constraints of society & inherited values that were passed down to you Then you are in the right place! I want this podcast to serve as a safe space to explore, evaluate & envision YOUR OWN blueprint for life. Let’s get into it…. Welcome, Welcome, Welcom! Come on in and get cozy. I am Nikki Marie & today we will be diving into a phrase that drives me insane & may be making you crazy too! Have you ever heard the phrase “That is NOT lady like”? This phrase is usually used to shrink a woman who dares to take up space & be unapologetically themselves! Fun Fact: The definition of lady actually means - A WOMAN Lady is just the polite way to say woman, not that a polite woman equal a lady Nowhere in the definition does it state the behavior or presence a lady is supposed to have. But in society the term “ladylike” is used to describe someone polite, proper and obedient. And once you step one toe out of that box you become a disgrace to all lady-kind. You are dishonoring your ancestors and yourself. All I have to say about that is… FUCK THAT NOISE! Yes I said it! We are shutting that concept down today! I have been called unladylike for cursing, for not allowing myself to be intimidated into action & because I don’t blindly fall in line like a good little “lady” would. Who gets to decide what a lady or a man is defined as? Yes, even men get told who & how to be a man, but ima save that tea for a future episode. But, who made these rules? Who lied to us? Bring me the person (let’s face it, it's probably a man) that came up with the concept “lady-like” so I could tell them to sit down and shut up. Who said being ladylike is THE WAY for a woman to be? Who said we even wanted to be a lady? The big issue is that each generation has learned to live inside the box passed down to them from the ones before. No matter how uncomfortable and tiny, they don’t even have to like the box, but they do have to blindly follow inorder to avoid being shunned in society. And I’m here to tell you it is time to break that cycle! We are breaking any cycle that feels incorrect for OUR lives, no matter who is advising us to do the opposite You will cross people who feel that it's necessary to comment on who you are, who you are not and who you are supposed to be. Those people usually lack control in their own lives so they frantically grab for other things & people to control. Their anxiety is not your problem & their view on life is none of your business! Just like 8 tracks, cassettes, and tv’s that could never be mounted on a wall had their time to shine and now we have evolved past it, we need to evolve our gender constraints & expectations in life. We are all human with experiences, emotions and being a lady or man will ever change that! If it's irrelevant to our lives then why are we holding on so tight to it? Society is too familiar with boxing people up and slapping labels on them. And Familiarity isn’t always best. Violent relationships could be familiar but does it serve your life for the better? Not really right? So, we need to redesign what is familiar and rebrand what ladylike means in society. It should mean a strong and daring woman. It should represent the confidence, passion & courage we have as women! I am inciting a movement! A movement of revising our view on the labels society has pinned to our shirts and living against the grain in life so we could write a new story for our lives without the weight of others experiences! To sum it all up… You already ARE a lady because you are a WOMAN on this earth.Other people don’t get to decide who you are and what you should do (yes, that includes the people we love)Break out of the box and break the cycle to pave a new path for future generationsOthers opinions have nothing to do with you!Familiar isn’t always bestIn order to alter your path & release anything that doesn’t make sense for your life by daring to rewrite the narrative that was taught to you & create your own! Post on IG, you being an extraordinary lady in a world that questions lady-hood & Tag me at helpme_nikkimarie so I could celebrate you! Use the hashtag #SuchAnEffinLady Thanks so much for listening to Life Against The Grain Podcast You can find full show notes from today’s episode at my site helpmenikkimarie.com If you are loving the podcast, I’d be so honored if you go ahead and hit that subscribe button and leave a review Continue questioning anything that doesn't feel ...
