Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we have Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick, the dynamic duo behind the Dateable podcast and the new book, “How to Be Dateable,” to have a conversation with us about, well, dating!

Julie and Yue will share with us today the 7 things that matter when looking for a partner and why connection and compatibility goes way beyond some chemistry and attraction.

We’ll learn about the key qualities to focus on when choosing someone for a relationship, how to avoid getting stuck in surface level connections, and what it really means to be dateable.

Along the way, we’ll touch on emotional availability, long-term compatibility, and how to create genuine, lasting connections so you can feel more confident and empowered in dating.

So, whether you're single, dating, or just curious about what makes relationships thrive, this episode is for you! It’s for everyone, basically! Stay tuned!

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About our guests: Julie Krafchick & Yue Xu are active daters turned dating insiders, and top influential voices of modern dating, relationships, and connection in the digital world. They’re the authors of How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Person and Falling in Love and the co-hosts of the hit podcast Dateable, which has been named one of the top podcasts about modern dating and relationships by the New York Times, The Huffington Post, Oprah Daily, and more.

Connect with Julie and Xue on Instagram, Take the "Dating Archetype" Quiz, and grab your copy of How to Be Dateable!

About your host: Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!

As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.

You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

💗 Happy flirting!

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we have Hannah Deindorfer, the Libody Fairy!, on the show to explore with us physical intimacy, libidos, and sex in dating!

Up for discussion are questions around consent, desire, and the touch barrier, and we'll play in the space of intimacy here as we talk about different ways to connect with your partner or partners on that physical level. We even go into your kissing dilemmas!

But that’s not all. Hannah will also offer guidance on how to navigate mismatched libidos, responsive vs. spontaneous desire, what to do in those moments when intimacy dips, and how to communicate your desires - without any shame.

So, whether you're struggling with desire differences, looking to strengthen emotional intimacy, or simply curious about how to approach these conversations in dating, this episode is full of actionable advice that is sure to keep the spark alive!

C’mon flirties, let’s meet Hannah!

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About our guest: Hannah Deindorfer, also known as "The Libido Fairy," has helped hundreds of women who struggle with low libido feel more connected to their partners and look forward to intimacy again. With her expertise in somatic and emotional healing, she guides women through practical steps to rekindle desire.

You can connect with Hannah on Instagram, YouTube, and the web!

About your host: Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!

As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.

You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

💗 Happy flirting!

Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, I’m joined by certified sex Claire Perelman for an important conversation about dating after sexual assault.

Together, we explore the complexities of reclaiming your sense of self in dating and relationships while navigating boundaries, consent, and personal healing.

I also share my own story, opening up about the challenges of feeling safe while dating and the journey of learning to trust myself - and others - again.

We discuss how trauma impacts the nervous system and the common experience of self-abandonment—doing whatever it takes to keep someone close. We’ll offer insights on how to reconnect with your body, heal your nervous system, and approach dating in a way that feels empowering and safe.

This episode is a powerful reminder that healing is possible and that you deserve it all, flirty! Let’s do this!

Trigger warning: This episode includes discussions sexual assault and trauma so please listen with care and if you or someone you love needs support, resources are linked in the show notes below. We are here to help.

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About our guest: Claire Perelman (she/her) is a Queer, Jewish Sex Therapist and Educator living and working in the Bay Area. Her work with clients, workshops, podcasts, and social media focuses on making sex education more accessible and normalizing sexual pleasure and play in people’s lives. Like many therapists, she channeled her greatest source of pleasure and heartbreak into her area of focus, leading her to specialize in therapy for sex and intimacy with couples, individuals, and polycules. You can find her at @sexclarified (on all platforms) and www.sexclarified.com

Further resources for the USA below. If you have international resources, please share those with me and I will add here to the show notes!

The National Sexual Violence Resource Center

RAINN: National Sexual Assault Hotline

Planned Parenthood

About your host: Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy, with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!

As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic and romantic connection - to take center stage and transform lives for greater healing and ultimately, a deeper connection with the self.

You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.

💗 Happy flirting!