As a betrayed partner, have you ever wondered why your spouse or partner is so avoidant with you? Maybe you're an unfaithful and wonder why you have such significant trouble communicating your emotions, needs and overall feelings? Today on the podcast, trauma expert Amanda Asproni and I discuss two of the most complex attachment styles: the dismissive avoidant and the fearful avoidant and how they both became who they are. Not only do we discuss how they became who they are, but how the betrayed can navigate around these attachment styles and find hope, healing and practical help to understand how they operate. When dealing with infidelity it's vital we have a grasp of both our own attachment style as well as our partners AND how those styles interact. How did we become so avoidant or anxious? Was this attachment style modeled for us by our parents or care givers? Where do we find expert help and a safe approach to try and save our families and marriages?
While avoidance can frustrate and isolate the betrayed partner, there are ways to engage the dismissive avoidant (DA) as well as the fearful avoidant (FA) that can create tangible forward progress and hope. It's not as hopeless as it feels or seems and today you'll find a light within what I'm sure feels like a never ending tunnel of darkness and despair.
Amanda’s journey into the field of complex trauma probably began in a similar place to where you're finding yourself right now. Her life brought her to a place full of despair, confusion and suffering.
Amanda’s journey into the field of complex trauma began right where many of you are right now, at the beginning.
Experience taught her that the that path to healing the myriad and various aspects of complex trauma is not only long, but also daunting at times. Specialized professional help from practitioners with training to treat the complexity that is complex developmental and relationship trauma is critical to success.
Her personal story makes her relatable and empathetic to her clients pain, confusion and the arduous road that coins recovery.
Treating complex trauma is also about identifying the underlying root issues such as betrayal trauma, childhood sexual abuse, intimacy disorders, attachment disturbances and unresolved dysfunctional family of origin patterns. You can find more about Amanda Asproni here: https://www.healingaffairscounseling.com/about/
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Sam’s Healing Podcast is brought to you by one of infidelity recovery’s most prominent and gifted influencers and YouTuber. For 15 years, Samuel has been online as one of the the leading spokespersons for healing and recovery of both betrayed and unfaithful spouses. After more than a decade of blogging and filming under one of the betrayal trauma’s founding fathers, famed clinician Rick Reynolds of affairrecovery.com, Sam has ventured out to pursue, create and live out his lifelong vision and passion for healing those touched by the trauma of infidelity. Through his new podcast and YouTube channel Samuel will continue to bring his own personal experiences with infidelity recovery along with delivering the most current and up-to-date clinical wisdom and healing modalities for recovery after an affair. Sam will also be expanding into the other critical areas of developing healthy relationships such as emotional and sexual connection, the impact of childhood sexual abuse and dysfunctional patterns of relating on marital intimacy, problematic communication patterns, complex, attachment and intergenerational trauma, compulsive sexual behavior, boundaries and the importance of inner-child healing work. Reach out to contact Samuel for personal coaching sessions at samshealingpodcast@gmail.com.
