Friendships can be so difficult to navigate sometimes. In today's conversation, we help identify the factors that can make friendships feel icky, and work out ways to show up authentically and with an open heart, rather than trying to problem solve.

We discuss:

• 1:00 Looking for an in-person opportunity to work with me? Consider attending my retreat!
• 3:52 Help! My friend and I can really trigger each other.
• 6:33 What to do when needs are different.
• 10:38 We're not here to protect other people from their feelings.
• 15:27 The difference between listening for understanding and listening for connection.
• 17:45 We don't need to understand to empathize.
• 19:37 The difference between being a mirror and a consultant.
• 25:19 Our feelings are information.
• 32:55 Closing thoughts

If you're looking for an in-person opportunity to ground yourself in your own goodness, read all about my March 2025 retreat to Santa Fe.

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Are you worried about Thanksgiving dinner conversations with family members who voted differently than you? In this week's episode, we listen to a conversation with Suzanne, who is trying to navigate issues of duty and connection with family members who don't share her values.

We discuss:

• 1:39 How do I explain to my family that I can't talk to them?
• 4:55 Working with the concept of duty
• 9:48 Developing boundaries around our relational terms of engagement
• 15:32 What needs are met when I reach out?
• 18:19 The difference between the public self and the private self/fitting in vs. belonging
• 27:15 What makes taking the next step in personal growth easier
• 31:14 Closing thoughts

This episode features discussion of my online course How to Have Hard Conversations. If you're looking for resources regarding how to connect when the divide is large, check it out!

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This week's podcast features one of my favorite discussions: Boundaries. It can be hard to set boundaries with life-long friends, and this week's discussion explores the complications concerning caring for ourselves, and helping others.

In this episode we explore:

• 1:00 Looking for an in-person opportunity to work with me? Consider attending my retreat!
• 4:01 A follow up conversation - "I had that hard conversation with my friend..."
• 8:59 What needs of yours did you meet by changing your plan?
• 10:57 A part of me wants to make her "wrong"
• 16:13 We can't do the hard work of waking up for someone else.
• 22:42 A script for disconnecting non-violently
• 26:58 The practice of somatic healing
• 29:00 The polarity between self-improvement and self-acceptance
• 31:55 Closing thoughts: including 8 Practical Insights for Setting Boundaries.

If you're looking for an in-person opportunity to ground yourself in your own goodness, read all about my March 2025 retreat to Santa Fe.

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Here are more ways to connect with me:

• Become a member of my online learning community
• Winter 2025 Retreat: Getting Grounded in Your Goodness
• Join our calls live
• Set up a private session
• Follow me on TikTok @dr.yvetteerasmus