For the first time in 7 years, I reunite with my college friend Mekela for an honest and raw conversation about how our relationship fractured after the 2016 election due to polarizing political differences. Our story represents the millions of relationships strained by those divisive times.

What started as fundamental disagreements over core issues like abortion turned into a chasm between us, fueled by hardened stances and a lack of nuance on both sides. But years later, having both experienced profound personal growths, we come together to rebuild.

In this powerful dialogue, Mekela courageously unpacks her deconstruction journey - from her conservative, pro-life upbringing to the catalytic moment she began questioning the harmful purity culture teachings of her faith. This awakening led her to fundamentally reevaluate her beliefs through an intersectional lens as a Black woman.

As I bear witness to Mekela's transformation, our conversation delves into the human impacts of deeply-held convictions, the need to embrace nuance on complex issues, and the power of curiosity over rigid certainty.

What emerges is a stirring exploration of how to reconcile divides, reconnect with our full identities, and foster growth through the humbling grace of being imperfect. For any relationship impacted by those polarizing times, this candid discussion offers a masterclass in human resilience and the healing force of empathy.

Live video recording available on YouTube.

00:00
Introduction and Background

04:38
College Years and Political Climate

13:53
Beliefs and Conditioning

25:13
Reconciliation and Growth

29:07
Questioning the Teachings: The Start of Deconstruction

32:15
Unveiling the Harm: Sex and Purity Culture

39:33
Embracing Intersectionality: Reconnecting with Identity

45:27
Reconnecting with the Body: Embracing Full Humanity

53:08
The Challenges of Deconstruction: Questioning Beliefs and Worldview

56:16
Humanizing Others: Embracing Different Experiences

57:47
Deconstructing Beliefs: A Journey of Personal Growth

59:43
Abortion: A Complex Issue Requiring Empathy

01:03:19
Intersectionality: Understanding the Unique Challenges

01:06:28
Curiosity and Learning: Expanding Empathy and Inclusion