Episodes

  • Bodies are Telling: Part Two

    Bodies are Telling: Part Two
    Jan 15 2024
    Bodies are Telling is a two part exploration of the often complex relationship between the body and the self, told by Jimanekia Eborn through an intimate, personal reflection of her own journey to self-discovery. What are the psychological effects of growing up in a body that is constantly objectified? How do outside influences and expectations impact the way we perceive ourselves? What does it mean to reconnect to our body and heal after experiencing sexual assault? This started out as a podcast discussing bodies that have been impacted by shame and guilt. But it turned into a candid sharing of deep truths; an examination of personal trauma and what it's like to come out on the other side. While also calling in others’ journeys and ideals around their own bodies, this is a story that, sadly, many will listen to and be able to connect with, but, hopefully, it is also a story that many can discover a place of understanding, realisation, and, ultimatley, hope. TW: This series mentions sexual assault and eating disorders. More about Jimanekia: Jimanekia Eborn is a Queer, Sexual Assault & Trauma Expert, Trauma Media Consultant, and Comprehensive Sex Educator. She is the host of Trauma Queen - a podcast for survivors of assault and our allies. The podcast focuses on uplifting voices in all communities and exploring our collective journey to healing. Jimanekia is the Founder of Tending The Garden- a nonprofit in service of sexual assault survivors who have been marginalized, offering retreats, online summits, community and education. She is also the co-founder of Cintima, bringing increased representation to the field of Intimacy Coordination in the film industry. In 2021, Jimanekia joined Lenora Claire Consulting as a SA & trauma expert for film & television productions. Jimanekia has been working in mental health for over a decade with youth, adolescents, and adults. She has led trauma-informed comprehensive sex and sex toy workshops at multiple universities including Columbia University, Georgetown University, Colorado College and Rhodes College. She has been the keynote speaker at Princeton Women's History Month 2021, UCSB Women of Color Conference 2019, UNCC & UC Merced's Take Back the Night Events 2022. Jimanekia has been a featured panelist at the MAC Belfast, Soho House, San Diego University, Converge Con and GirlSchool LA. Her work as a sex educator has been featured in Marie Claire, Playboy, Cosmo, Mind Body Green, Well + Good, Nylon, and many more. Contributors: Jordiana Diana: Website: https://earthtojordi.com Eugene Hsiang: @eutothegene Sonalee Rashatwar: @thefatsextherapist, https://www.sonaleer.com/, https://twitter.com/SonaleeR Social media: Website: https://traumaqueen.love/ Instagram: @jimanekia Twitter: @Jimanekia Facebook: Jimanekia Eborn Bodies are Telling was written by Jimanekia Eborn. Production by Lucy Carr and James Deacon. Sound design and mixing by Ben Williams. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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    17 mins
  • Bodies are Telling: Part One

    Bodies are Telling: Part One
    Jan 15 2024
    Bodies are Telling is a two part exploration of the often complex relationship between the body and the self, told by Jimanekia Eborn through an intimate, personal reflection of her own journey to self-discovery. What are the psychological effects of growing up in a body that is constantly objectified? How do outside influences and expectations impact the way we perceive ourselves? What does it mean to reconnect to our body and heal after experiencing sexual assault? This started out as a podcast discussing bodies that have been impacted by shame and guilt. But it turned into a candid sharing of deep truths; an examination of personal trauma and what it's like to come out on the other side. While also calling in others’ journeys and ideals around their own bodies, this is a story that, sadly, many will listen to and be able to connect with, but, hopefully, it is also a story that many can discover a place of understanding, realisation, and, ultimatley, hope. TW: This series mentions sexual assault and eating disorders. More about Jimanekia: Jimanekia Eborn is a Queer, Sexual Assault & Trauma Expert, Trauma Media Consultant, and Comprehensive Sex Educator. She is the host of Trauma Queen - a podcast for survivors of assault and our allies. The podcast focuses on uplifting voices in all communities and exploring our collective journey to healing. Jimanekia is the Founder of Tending The Garden- a nonprofit in service of sexual assault survivors who have been marginalized, offering retreats, online summits, community and education. She is also the co-founder of Cintima, bringing increased representation to the field of Intimacy Coordination in the film industry. In 2021, Jimanekia joined Lenora Claire Consulting as a SA & trauma expert for film & television productions. Jimanekia has been working in mental health for over a decade with youth, adolescents, and adults. She has led trauma-informed comprehensive sex and sex toy workshops at multiple universities including Columbia University, Georgetown University, Colorado College and Rhodes College. She has been the keynote speaker at Princeton Women's History Month 2021, UCSB Women of Color Conference 2019, UNCC & UC Merced's Take Back the Night Events 2022. Jimanekia has been a featured panelist at the MAC Belfast, Soho House, San Diego University, Converge Con and GirlSchool LA. Her work as a sex educator has been featured in Marie Claire, Playboy, Cosmo, Mind Body Green, Well + Good, Nylon, and many more. Contributors: Jordiana Diana: Website: https://earthtojordi.com Eugene Hsiang: @eutothegene Sonalee Rashatwar: @thefatsextherapist, https://www.sonaleer.com/, https://twitter.com/SonaleeR Social media: Website: https://traumaqueen.love/ Instagram: @jimanekia Twitter: @Jimanekia Facebook: Jimanekia Eborn Bodies are Telling was written by Jimanekia Eborn. Production by Lucy Carr and James Deacon. Sound design and mixing by Ben Williams. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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    26 mins
  • Bodies are Telling: Trailer

    Bodies are Telling: Trailer
    Jan 12 2024
    Bodies are Telling is a two-part exploration of the often complex relationship between the body and the self, told by Jimanekia Eborn through an intimate, personal reflection of her own journey to self-discovery. What are the psychological effects of growing up in a body that is constantly objectified? How do outside influences and expectations impact the way we perceive ourselves? What does it mean to reconnect to our body and heal after experiencing sexual assault? This started out as a podcast discussing bodies that have been impacted by shame and guilt. But it turned into a candid sharing of deep truths; an examination of personal trauma and what it's like to come out on the other side. While also calling in others’ journeys and ideals around their own bodies, this is a story that, sadly, many will listen to and be able to connect with, but, hopefully, it is also a story that many can discover a place of understanding, realisation, and, ultimately, hope. TW: This series mentions sexual assault and eating disorders. More about Jimanekia: Jimanekia Eborn is a Queer, Sexual Assault & Trauma Expert, Trauma Media Consultant, and Comprehensive Sex Educator. She is the host of Trauma Queen - a podcast for survivors of assault and our allies. The podcast focuses on uplifting voices in all communities and exploring our collective journey to healing. Jimanekia is the Founder of Tending The Garden- a nonprofit in service of sexual assault survivors who have been marginalized, offering retreats, online summits, community and education. She is also the co-founder of Cintima, bringing increased representation to the field of Intimacy Coordination in the film industry. In 2021, Jimanekia joined Lenora Claire Consulting as a SA & trauma expert for film & television productions. Jimanekia has been working in mental health for over a decade with youth, adolescents, and adults. She has led trauma-informed comprehensive sex and sex toy workshops at multiple universities including Columbia University, Georgetown University, Colorado College and Rhodes College. She has been the keynote speaker at Princeton Women's History Month 2021, UCSB Women of Color Conference 2019, UNCC & UC Merced's Take Back the Night Events 2022. Jimanekia has been a featured panelist at the MAC Belfast, Soho House, San Diego University, Converge Con and GirlSchool LA. Her work as a sex educator has been featured in Marie Claire, Playboy, Cosmo, Mind Body Green, Well + Good, Nylon, and many more. Contributors: Jordiana Diana: Website: https://earthtojordi.com Eugene Hsiang: @eutothegene Sonalee Rashatwar: @thefatsextherapist, https://www.sonaleer.com/, https://twitter.com/SonaleeR Social media: Website: https://traumaqueen.love/ Instagram: @jimanekia Twitter: @Jimanekia Facebook: Jimanekia Eborn Bodies are Telling was written by Jimanekia Eborn. Production by Lucy Carr and James Deacon. Sound design and mixing by Ben Williams. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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    1 min
  • Pleasure

    Pleasure
    Nov 2 2023
    Pleasure impacts so many areas of our lives, yet there’s so much shame about the things that bring us pleasure. In this episode, Ruby unpacks the act of experiencing pleasure, but also the many things, societal and internal, that get in the way, as well as thinking about how our relationship to pleasure can evolve and change throughout our lives. They talk to Emily Nagoski about what pleasure actually is and the things that might prevent us accessing it, as well as exploring the ways that different people have connected with their own pleasure. Full transcript available here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1TfKP9vwOVLSyLDe3s3Ugi3jQvgfRk3_K/view?usp=sharing CREDITS: Host: Ruby Rare Producer, Editor and Sound Design: Bea Duncan Executive Producer: Hana Walker-Brown Production Assistants: Rory Boyle and Mars West Social Assets: /Forward Slash This is a Broccoli Production RESOURCES: Brook The UK's leading provider of sexual health and wellbeing for young people under 25 Service directory: https://www.brook.org.uk/find-a-service/ Website: https://www.brook.org.uk The National Domestic Abuse Helpline, run by Refuge Free and confidential helpline. Phone: 0808 2000 247 (24 hours a day) Galop Hate crime, domestic abuse and sexual violence support service for LGBT+ people Helpline: 0800 999 5428 (Monday-Friday, 10am-5pm / Wednesday & Thursday, 10am-8pm) Website: http://www.galop.org.uk LINKS & FURTHER READING: Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski https://www.waterstones.com/book/come-as-you-are/dr-emily-nagoski/9781925228014 Self Esteem Prioritise Pleasure https://www.musicglue.com/self-esteem/products/prioritise-pleasure-standard-cd-2 Kenny Ethan Jones https://www.instagram.com/kennyethanjones/?hl=en Eliza https://www.youtube.com/c/DisabledEliza A Curious History of Sex by Dr Kate Lister https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/50773748-a-curious-history-of-sex Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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    40 mins
  • Survivors

    Survivors
    Oct 26 2023
    TW: This episode contains multiple discussions between survivors. There will be discussion of sexual violence, child abuse and domestic abuse. In this episode, Ruby speaks to two other survivors, Lilly and Andreena, as well as Amy Roch from Galop, a charity supporting LGBT+ people who have experienced abuse and violence. They’ll be unpacking the realities of processing abuse, as well as how we move forwards in their lives, work, relationships and sex lives. These are just a few stories out of millions from across history and the world. All of our experiences differ, but we are all united. CREDITS: Host: Ruby Rare Producer, Editor and Sound Design: Bea Duncan Executive Producer: Hana Walker-Brown Production Assistants: Rory Boyle and Mars West Social Assets: /Forward Slash This is a Broccoli Production Full transcript available here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1VpewsOnp2jvXvuPswXbNGzRVCRqlGUx1/view  RESOURCES: Galop Hate crime, domestic abuse and sexual violence support service for LGBT+ people Helpline: 0800 999 5428 (Monday-Friday, 10am-5pm / Wednesday & Thursday, 10am-8pm) Website: http://www.galop.org.uk The National Domestic Abuse Helpline, run by Refuge Free and confidential helpline. Phone: 0808 2000 247 (24 hours a day) Survivors UK – Male Rape and Sexual Abuse Support A range of support options to help those who identify as men recover from experiences of sexual abuse or rape. National Helpline: 0845 122 1201 Website: https://www.survivorsuk.org Webchat available Monday-Sunday 12:00 - 20:00 NAPAC Offering support to adult survivors of childhood abuse and training for those who support them. Website: https://napac.org.uk Support line: 0808 801 0331 (10am-9pm Mon-Thurs, 10am-6pm Fri) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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    37 mins
  • Gender Non-conformity

    Gender Non-conformity
    Oct 19 2023
    TW: This episode contains discussion of transphobia In this episode, Ruby is exploring how their own gender feels to them, speaking to her sibling and partner as well as other gender non-confirming and non-binary people about their experiences. She also hears from Meg-John Barker about what gender even is, the ways that we all go on a journey with gender throughout our lives, and the impacts these conversations are having. Full transcript available here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1RgDeoCT8XbfTMWd4YzcFd5afRwbnPaKK/view?usp=sharing  CREDITS: Host: Ruby Rare Producer, Editor and Sound Design: Bea Duncan Executive Producer: Hana Walker-Brown Production Assistants: Rory Boyle and Mars West Social Assets: /Forward Slash This is a Broccoli Production Full transcript available here:  RESOURCES: Gendered Intelligence Increasing understandings of gender diversity and improve trans people's quality of life Phone: 0330 355 9678 (Mon, Tues, Thurs 2pm-7pm / Wed, Fri 10am-3pm) Website: http://genderedintelligence.co.uk The National Domestic Abuse Helpline, run by Refuge Free and confidential helpline. Phone: 0808 2000 247 (24 hours a day) Galop Hate crime, domestic abuse and sexual violence support service for LGBT+ people Helpline: 0800 999 5428 (Monday-Friday, 10am-5pm / Wednesday & Thursday, 10am-8pm) Website: http://www.galop.org.uk Switchboard LGBT+ Helpline to discuss things including sexuality, gender identity, and emotional wellbeing. Website w/chat: https://switchboard.lgbt Phone: 0300 330 0630 (Every day 10am - 10pm) LGBT Foundation Helpline run by LGBT health charity. Phone: 0345 3 30 30 30 (Weekdays 9am-9pm, Weekends 10am-6pm) Website: http://lgbt.foundation/helpline LINKS & FURTHER READING: Life Isn’t Binary: On Being Both, Beyond, and In-Between by Alex Iantaffi & Meg-John Barker https://www.waterstones.com/book/life-isnt-binary/alex-iantaffi/meg-john-barker/9781785924798 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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    36 mins
  • Pornography

    Pornography
    Oct 12 2023
    TW: This episode contains discussion of sexual assault For most of us, our relationship to porn is very secretive - just us and the dim light of our phone screen. Which is interesting given the fact that every single one of us has a relationship to porn - whether we watch it or not. In this episode, Ruby unpacks the realities of making and consuming porn. She speaks to porn performers about why people are so reluctant to pay for their pornography and the benefits and limitations of ethical porn, as well as unpacking the impacts watching porn can have on the self esteem and sexual experiences of adults. CREDITS: Host: Ruby Rare Producer, Editor and Sound Design: Bea Duncan Executive Producer: Hana Walker-Brown Production Assistants: Rory Boyle and Mars West Social Assets: /Forward Slash This is a Broccoli Production Full transcript available here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/18NAxsEo_y2Qjj_CpydS5B724xVXpEJtv/view?usp=sharing RESOURCES: Brook The UK's leading provider of sexual health and wellbeing for young people under 25 Service directory: https://www.brook.org.uk/find-a-service/ Website: https://www.brook.org.uk The National Domestic Abuse Helpline, run by Refuge Free and confidential helpline. Phone: 0808 2000 247 (24 hours a day) Galop Hate crime, domestic abuse and sexual violence support service for LGBT+ people Helpline: 0800 999 5428 (Monday-Friday, 10am-5pm / Wednesday & Thursday, 10am-8pm) Website: http://www.galop.org.uk LINKS & FURTHER READING: Rufai and Erika Lust joint statement https://www.hellorooster.club/joint-statement-by-erika-lust-films-and-hello-rooster/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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    38 mins
  • Non-monogamy

    Non-monogamy
    Oct 5 2023
    Non-monogamy isn’t new, and is also just one of the many ways of doing relationships. There’s a cultural curiosity here, but there’s still a whole host of misconceptions and assumptions that people make of the reality of being non-monogamous - in this episode Ruby tackles these head on. From chatting to her nesting partner about their relationship, to hearing from others within the community about the ways they’ve made non-monogamy work for them. CREDITS: Host: Ruby Rare Producer, Editor and Sound Design: Bea Duncan Executive Producer: Hana Walker-Brown Production Assistants: Rory Boyle and Mars West Social Assets: /Forward Slash This is a Broccoli Production Full transcript available here: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1EQZ4rNv9Uv06qIOlRcRHu6zvRLOLYqHk/view?usp=sharing RESOURCES: The National Domestic Abuse Helpline, run by Refuge Free and confidential helpline. Phone: 0808 2000 247 (24 hours a day) Galop Hate crime, domestic abuse and sexual violence support service for LGBT+ people Helpline: 0800 999 5428 (Monday-Friday, 10am-5pm / Wednesday & Thursday, 10am-8pm) Website: http://www.galop.org.uk LINKS & FURTHER READING: DK Green http://dkgreen.co.uk Polyphilia https://www.polyphilia.blog Blackfluent Polyamory Hub https://m.facebook.com/groups/2367623383504854/ Minka Guides https://www.minkaguides.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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    34 mins