Episodes

  • Love and Business: The Spartners Approach

    Love and Business: The Spartners Approach
    Feb 15 2024
    Today, we're breaking the mold by exploring the idea of going into business with your spouse. Meet Troy & Shantel Brooks, childhood friends turned spouses and business partners, sharing their journey from NYC to Atlanta with purpose, impact, and faith. In their book "Spartners," Troy & Shantel provide practical insights on how working with your spouse can enrich your marriage. Join us as we uncover reflective practices to reveal the value in your partner as a business ally and discover the gifts within your spouse for a purposeful life. In this episode, we will be learning about the Spartnership approach, the dynamics of partnership in marriage and business, and tips and advice for those of you interested in learning more about how to become Spartners. Podcast Mentions Support this PODCAST: Click Here Pre-Order the Spartners Book: Click Here Meet the Brooks:  Click Here Connect with the Brooks on Instagram: Insta Link Therapy for Black Men: Find a Therapist Therapy for Black Girls: Find a Therapist CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/
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    43 mins
  • Apologizing 101

    Apologizing 101
    Feb 1 2024
    Black Marriage Therapy is sponsored by BetterHelp! If you struggle to say sorry and offer your spouse authentic apologies in your relationship you are not alone. It is human nature to want to defend yourself when being critiqued about your behavior but it is essential that as couples we learn the art and the dance of apologizing. In this episode I want to share all that I have learned. In this episode, we will discuss the importance of apologies, the wrong way to apologize, the different ways people receive apologies, and tips tricks and advice to help you become better at apologizing. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/BLACKMARRIAGE and get on your way to being your best self. Podcast Mentions Dr. Gary Chapman: The 5 Apology Languages: The Secret to Healthy Relationships Dr. Harriet Lerner: Why Won't You Apologize? Kevin and Melissa Fredricks: Marriage Be Hard Therapy for Black Men: Find a Therapist Therapy for Black Girls: Find a Therapist TalkSpace: https://www.talkspace.com/ CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/ Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/ Z-Library: Digital Library

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    30 mins
  • Healing Invisible Wounds in Your Marriage featuring Kaara Kiddoe, LCSW

    Healing Invisible Wounds in Your Marriage featuring Kaara Kiddoe, LCSW
    Jan 18 2024
    There are moments in our lives that stick with us for a lifetime. Some of these moments, however, carry wounds so deep that we bury them, pretending they never existed—Until…… someone accidentally touches it. Then what?..... When left unaddressed, these invisible traumas can cast a long shadow over our lives and, more specifically, our marriages. In this episode, we're privileged to have an expert guide us through this sensitive topic. Joining us is Kaara Kiddoe, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and the Co-Founder of Authentic Marriages, a Christian marriage ministry she runs alongside her husband, Dr. Jared Kiddoe. Their mission is to promote emotionally and spiritually healthy marriages in the Black and Brown communities across the globe.  Guest Info Find Kaara Kiddoe: Authentic Marriages Kaara Kiddoe:  Instagram Podcast Mentions Why Am I Like This?: Book Link The Body Keeps the Score: Book Link Therapy for Black Men: Find a Therapist Therapy for Black Girls: Find a Therapist BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/ TalkSpace: https://www.talkspace.com/ CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/ Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/

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    57 mins
  • 3 Pillars of Men's Personal Development

    3 Pillars of Men's Personal Development
    Jan 18 2024
    Whether you're a man seeking personal growth or a partner invested in the success of your relationship, this episode is a must-listen. Join us in this transformative episode as Rex, a licensed LMFT & Relationship coach, unveils the essential blueprint for men to thrive in their most critical roles within a marriage. We delve into the three fundamental pillars of men's personal development that are paramount to creating lasting, meaningful marriage.
    1. Emotional Intelligence: Uncover how emotional intelligence will strengthen your marital bond.
    2. Spiritual Growth: Understanding your purpose and deepen your connection to (and in) your relationship.
    3. Financial Literacy: Discuss the complexities of managing money wisely.
    Don't miss out on the opportunity to elevate your relationship—listen in and begin learning the tools to build a secure future today! Podcast Mentions Support our Podcast: Click Here Our Facebook Group: Click Here Eric Thomas: Click Here Books: The Psychology of MoneyRich Dad Poor Dad Follow Rex: Iamrexhowardjr on instagram Therapy for Black Men: Find a Therapist Therapy for Black Girls: Find a Therapist BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/ TalkSpace: https://www.talkspace.com/ CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/ Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/
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    52 mins
  • How to Create an Intentional Marriage

    How to Create an Intentional Marriage
    Jan 4 2024
    Most marriages that are successful can attribute that success to the level of intentionality they put into the marriage. In every aspect of marriage, intention is like the wheels that make the car move. As the year came to a close Junior and I felt the strain our new commitments put on our relationship and decided quickly, to make the necessary changes to realign and make our relationship a priority. So for 2024, we are learning from our missteps and failures to create a better future for our relationship through intention. So If you feel like your marriage is stagnant and having trouble growing in your relationship with your partner this episode is for you. In this episode, we will discuss how to design the marriage you want through intentionality. Podcast Mentions Therapy for Black Men: Find a Therapist Therapy for Black Girls: Find a Therapist BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/ TalkSpace: https://www.talkspace.com/ CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/ Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/
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    28 mins
  • The 6 Most Common Holiday Arguments

    The 6 Most Common Holiday Arguments
    Dec 14 2023
    The holidays are a time for cheer and celebration but for couples, it can create tension. According to several polled therapists by the Huffington Post there a 6 main arguments that couples have during the holidays. In this episode, we are going to discuss those arguments and give you tips on how to navigate this holiday season while avoiding potential landmines in your marriage. Podcast Mentions Facebook Group: Join the Family! Huffington Post Article:  The 6 Most Common Arguments Couples Have Around The Holidays Therapy for Black Men: Find a Therapist Therapy for Black Girls: Find a Therapist BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/ TalkSpace: https://www.talkspace.com/ CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/ Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/ Tips for Navigating the Holidays as a Couple Communication of Expectations Explore the perspective that there's no absolute right or wrong, often just a difference in viewpoints (drawing inspiration from Esther Perel). Acknowledge that each person's family is unique and has its own dynamics. Embrace Humility Approach holiday gatherings with humility, recognizing that both partners bring their own backgrounds and traditions into the relationship. Foster an open mindset to understand and appreciate each other's family dynamics. Negotiate Priorities Prioritize and negotiate what aspects of the holiday season are most important to each partner. Example: Decide if traveling during Christmas is non-negotiable or if there's room for compromise. Compromise Where Possible Find common ground and compromise to create a holiday plan that suits both partners. Recognize that flexibility is key, especially when blending different family traditions. Express Discomforts Communicate any discomforts to your partner, serving as a buffer in family interactions. Example: Share concerns about personal boundaries, such as not wanting to be overly affectionate in certain family settings. Create a Game Plan Develop a game plan for holiday gatherings, including specifics like how long you'll stay and what's acceptable behavior around children. Discuss potential challenges and agree on how to address them in the moment. In-the-Moment Discussions Address issues as they arise during holiday events. Be a united front and step away together if necessary, ensuring that family dynamics don't strain your relationship. Set Boundaries Clearly define and communicate boundaries for family interactions. Establish guidelines for how much time you spend with each family, especially if conflicts arise. Stay United Resist external pressures that may attempt to pull you and your partner apart. Reaffirm your commitment to each other during the holiday season. Reflect and Adjust After the holidays, reflect on what worked well and what could be improved. Use this information to adjust your approach in future holiday seasons for even smoother experiences. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/blackmarriagetherapy/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/blackmarriagetherapy/support
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    40 mins
  • How to END the Vicious Cycle of Hurt

    How to END the Vicious Cycle of Hurt
    Nov 9 2023
    Sometimes despite best intentions and love for one another, we may find ourselves in a situation where we are continuously hurting one another and drifting farther and farther away.  In this episode, we dive into the topic of emotional disconnection and connection. We also talk about a technique called "repair" in the context of moment-to-moment conflict situations to help us navigate the ups and downs of our relationships. HomeWork- Complete and share this with your partner New beginnings start with understanding how we created the trap that we are caught in can you share one cue/trigger that sparks the distancing? Can you identify exactly how you push your partner away from you or make it dangerous for them to come closer? Can you identify what you tell yourself once you have emotionally withdrawn to justify separation and discourage yourself from reaching out to your partner? Does YOUR PARTNER'S perception of how EMOTIONALLY accessible, responsive, &  engaged you are fit with your view of yourself in the Relationship? Podcast Mentions Repair by John Gottman: R is For Repair Dr. Sue Johnson:  Hold Me Tight Therapy for Black Men: Find a Therapist Therapy for Black Girls: Find a Therapist BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/ TalkSpace: https://www.talkspace.com/ CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/ Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/ --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/blackmarriagetherapy/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/blackmarriagetherapy/support
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    49 mins
  • 5 Lessons from a Marriage and Family Therapist

    5 Lessons from a Marriage and Family Therapist
    Oct 26 2023
    Therapy, for a lot of us in the black community, can be taboo. Often times speaking to a stranger about our problems and our relationships can be an intimidating journey filled with uncertainty, vulnerability, and self-discovery. But today, we're here to help peel back some of the layers on the idea of therapy for your relationship and peek into what it's really all about. We also will be getting advice on 5 things that are essential for a healthy marriage from an expert with several years of experience counseling couples. Our guest today is Deborah Richelieu, a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a passion for guiding individuals, couples, and families toward brighter, more harmonious futures. So, if you've ever wondered about the transformative power of therapy, if you've hesitated to take that first step, or if you're just curious about the lessons a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist has to offer, you're in the right place. Podcast Mentions John Gottman:  Research Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse: Article Connect with Deborah Richelieu, LMFT:  Instagram: @richlydeb    She’s Taking Clients: 15 min Free Consultation Youtube Channel: The Rich Couch Therapy Resources Therapy for Black Men: Find a Therapist Therapy for Black Girls: Find a Therapist BetterHelp: https://www.betterhelp.com/ TalkSpace: https://www.talkspace.com/ CBT Thought Diary: https://cbtthoughtdiary.com/ Libby Audiobook Library: https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby/
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    49 mins