On this show, we break down Week #2 of the 90 Days to Higher Self-Worth daily workbook. I am doing the workbook with you, week by week.  What I’ve learned is that self-worth can always be moved higher.  As we transition in life, our goals change.

When my children were young, I was focused on providing a safe home, contributing to the family income, and being a great father.  My purpose and mission changed as our kids grew up and moved out.  I no longer have the demands of daily fatherhood, allowing me to explore other opportunities and dreams.  Each season of life has different priorities, and we adjust to those changes by raising our self-worth to achieve the goals we want at that time in life. 

Therefore, I need to walk the talk and discover my next barriers, so I am doing the 90 Days workbook with you.

This brings us to our topic of Week #2 - Confidence.  

Confidence is ridiculously important to personal development.  As a society, we are naturally drawn to highly confident people.

I’m not talking about boastful or ego-driven people, I’m talking about people who know they are worthy of a good life, believe in themselves, and have the mindset to pursue it. 

This week, my friend Carlos called me and wanted career advice.  He’s a recruiter of legal talent and finds the business tedious and unfulfilling.  Carlos called me in despair - frustrated that he had wasted time and energy in the headhunting industry and was killing him.

I said to Carlos, “What would a confident person do?”

Carlos was quiet.  I waited because I knew he knew the answer.

Finally, Carlos broke the silence and said, “A confident person would make a list of possible career opportunities and evaluate them.”

I said, “And then what would a confident person do?”

He said, “Probably run the list by friends I trust and get their input.”

“And then what?” I said.

He was quiet again.  “I get it,” he said with a brighter tone and confidence.

“Carlos,” I said, “you know what to do.  If you do not have the confidence to move forward, ask yourself what a person with confidence would do.  We all know someone who is confident and believes in themselves.  Ask yourself, what would they do?”

Carlos is not alone. He is like 1000s of women and men I know who know what to do but lack the confidence and self-worth to move forward.

Let’s take a minute to break down how confidence is built.  Confidence has its roots in self-worth.  At the base of confidence is the awareness that we are worthy of an outcome or goal.  When we know we deserve the rewards of successfully achieving a goal, we naturally pursue the goal, because we deserve the rewards.

Taking mental ownership of the reward is the first step in building confidence.  When I say, “I have a career I love, and it pays me well,” I imprint on my mind the positive higher self-worth necessary to take ownership of a great, well-paying career.  Repeated over 90 days, my subconscious mind accepts the statement as real and repeats the confident language in my mind repeatedly, habitually, until it is real.  This process builds confidence through developing language that supports forward motion and achievement.

Confidence is also built as the result of achieving goals.  We write down the WINS from the prior day each day in the workbook.  This practice puts us in the habit of winning, a habit most of us have never learned.  The workbook helps us bring forward the positive higher self-worth emotions of confidence.

This week, write down three positive self-talk goals you want to accomplish.  I want to change the language I use to describe myself, specifically as a writer.  I want to change the emotions of “I am a poor writer” to “I am a good writer.”  This is a simple change and important for me.  Perhaps your changes are around meditation, exercise, or learning.  Maybe it has to do with body image. 

Be sure to write your self-talk language goals for Week 2.

I hope you find a pace for this practice and develop a higher self-worth mindset.  Keep the workbook nearby to add to the daily exercises as you go through the day.

As always, feel free to reach out and ask me questions at info@motiveforlife.com. 

Be sure to pick up my first book, The Bug in our Brain, on Amazon, Kindle, and Audible.

Finally, thank you for your support and love.