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  • How to Be a Family

  • The Year I Dragged My Kids Around the World to Find a New Way to Be Together
  • By: Dan Kois
  • Narrated by: Dan Kois
  • Length: 10 hrs and 46 mins
  • 4.1 out of 5 stars (7 ratings)

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How to Be a Family

By: Dan Kois
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Summary

In this "funny and honest" (Pamela Druckerman) memoir, Slate editor Dan Kois sets out with his family on a journey around the world to change their lives together.

What happens when one frustrated dad turns his kids' lives upside down in search of a new way to be a family?

Dan Kois and his wife always did their best for their kids. Busy professionals living in the D.C. suburbs, they scheduled their children's time wisely, and when they weren't arguing over screen time, the Kois family - Dan, his wife Alia, and their two pre-teen daughters - could each be found searching for their own happiness. But aren't families supposed to achieve happiness together?

In this eye-opening, heartwarming, and very funny family memoir, the fractious, loving Kois' go in search of other places on the map that might offer them the chance to live away from home - but closer together. Over a year the family lands in New Zealand, the Netherlands, Costa Rica, and small-town Kansas. The goal? To get out of their rut of busyness and distractedness and to see how other families live outside the East Coast parenting bubble.

How to Be a Family brings listeners along as the Kois girls - witty, solitary, extremely online Lyra and goofy, sensitive, social butterfly Harper - walk through the Kiwi bush, ride bikes to a Dutch school in the pouring rain, battle iguanas in their Costa Rican kitchen, and learn to love a town where everyone knows your name. Meanwhile, Dan interviews neighbors, public officials, and scholars to learn why each of these places work the way they do. Will this trip change the Kois family's lives? Or do families take their problems and conflicts with them wherever we go?

A journalistic memoir filled with heart, empathy, and lots of whining, How to Be a Family will make listeners dream about the amazing adventures their own families might take.

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©2019 Dan Kois (P)2019 Hachette Audio
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Critic reviews

"Might remind cinema-minded readers of the end of Bill Forsyth's 1983 film Local Hero...nicely tuned-in observations befitting a keen-eyed journalist." (Kirkus Reviews)

"Kois and his family actually take the dizzying leap to leave behind their lives for a year-a trek that takes them from New Zealand to Kansas-and the result is a unique book that every overstressed and anxious (meaning = every) parent should read." (The Millions)

"How To Be a Family is a witty, surprising and compulsively readable book. You may find yourself planning a geographical cure of your own by the time you reach the end of it. But Kois is too thoughtful a writer to dwell only on the transformative possibilities of such a trip. Nothing is quite as his family imagined it would be and this leads the book into exhilarating, emotionally complex territory." (Jenny Offill, author of Department of Speculation)

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if you want to be inspired, don't read this book

I was enthusiastic about the premise of the book, being a serial migrant with 2 daughters myself and having lived in both NZ and the Netherlands. (Being Dutch, I feel like apologising for what happened at the school in NL - it's not my experience that this is typical and I wish they had had a better time, I think many schools/teachers would have made more of an effort) Anyway - good on this family for stepping out of their hectic American lives. I liked the candidness and the observations of both the places they visited and their daughters' responses. I just found it rather depressing that they seemed to get pretty bored along the way and stepped right back into exactly the same lives upon returning. I don't know if this reflects a lack of imagination, inspiration, or a general lack of something fundamental in today's world. However, if you are looking for inspiration, l'd look elsewhere

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