If you've ever experienced verbal abuse, you know how devastating, demeaning and cruel it is. You know how destructive it is to your self-esteem.

When that hurtful scenario keeps recurring, it seems the only sane thing to do is get away from that abusive person at least temporarily and possibly permanently.

But when that person is your husband, someone you’ve built a life with—sworn to love, honor and respect—and have children with, it’s not so easy to tear apart your family. But you don’t want to live with ongoing verbal abuse either! Nobody should have to live with that.

What if you could reduce the blow-ups? What if they dwindled down to hardly ever? Or even none at all?

I wouldn’t have believed that was possible if I hadn’t seen it in my own marriage. And now that I’ve also witnessed thousands of other women use the Connection Framework to create the same peaceful, even playful outcome in their marriages, I’m a believer.

You don’t have to take my word for it—you can see for yourself by experimenting in your own relationship. Learn what victims of verbal abuse have done to create peace, connection, and playfulness in their relationships.

Sometimes, such victims make one of two common mistakes that worsen the abuse. It’s shocking because I remember feeling so hopeless and helpless about this in my marriage, I was offended by the idea that I was making any mistakes besides having married the wrong person!

But I was making these two mistakes that were within my control to fix…