This Week’s Listener Question:

What’s wrong with me? Every time I go home for the holidays, I revert back to my teenage self. I’ve matured so much since the but I act like a rebellious adolescent around my parents and siblings.

SOUL Group Questions:

To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.

1. During the holiday, how do you regress or revert back to an older version of yourself?

2. How can you prepare yourself ahead of time for all the stress in this season? What do you need or want that might be different this year?

3. Who could be an ally for you this year, someone who holds you accountable for who you want to be? How can you purposefully plan with them?

4. What 3 values do you want to prioritize this holiday season? How will you live them out?

5. How can you anchor yourself in the person you’re trying to become or create? What the first step?

Resources:

Laura is hosting 3 free classes during the holidays to help prepare you for all the big emotions that come up this time of year. To register – Free Sign Up

To sign up for one-on-one grief and/or faith support with Laura, visit griefandhope.org

To ask Laura to speak at your event – laurabusse.com

Have a question for us? Send it to questions@soulenchilada.com

Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – HERE

Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – HERE

This Week’s Listener Question:

Thanksgiving is in two weeks. I really don’t want to host my extended family because we’re divided on several key topics. How do I navigate family division and still enjoy the holidays?

SOUL Group Questions:

To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.

1. When you think about Thanksgiving this year, what feelings and thoughts come up for you?

2. Think of a time when you had “gridlock” with a partner or family member. How have you learned to love in the midst of conflict or disagreements?

3. In what ways could you practice self-care and self-compassion in this post-election and pre-holiday season?

4. Why do you think it’s important to H.A.L.T. (hungry, angry, lonely, tired) a conversation until you can take care of yourself?

5. Where are your safe spaces that you can express your genuine feelings and be present for others to express theirs?

Resources:

Laura is hosting 3 free classes during the holidays to help prepare you for all the big emotions that come up this time of year. To register – Free Sign Up

To sign up for one-on-one grief and/or faith support with Laura, visit griefandhope.org

To ask Laura to speak at your event – laurabusse.com

Have a question for us? Send it to questions@soulenchilada.com

Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – HERE

Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – HERE

This Week’s Listener Question:

I’m in a really uncomfortable space. I used to be in breadwinner for our family. Now my husband and I switched places. He’s going to work and I’m staying home with the kids. I feel lost, without direction, in this new role. How do I motivate myself in this weird space?

SOUL Group Questions:

To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.

1. What uncomfortable transition or liminal space do you find yourself in?

2. What different emotions are you noticing in your current space?

3. How can you create “sacred space” in this season of your life? What needs to shift in order to do so?

4. Laura and Christine talked about slowing down, honoring your emotions, reflecting, and trusting the process. Which it the hardest for you to do? Why do you think so?

5. What’s your one take away from this podcast you want to remember and apply in your life?

Resources: In Midlife by Murray Stein – Book

To sign up for one-on-one grief and/or faith support with Laura, visit griefandhope.org

Have a question for us? Send it to questions@soulenchilada.com

Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – HERE

Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – HERE

This Week’s Listener Question:

I grew up in a house where it was wrong to express your anger so I learned to suppress it. Now I’m conflicted because anger feels like a natural response when you’ve been wronged. What do you think?

SOUL Group Questions:

To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.

1. What were you taught about anger when you were growing up?

2. Think of a situation that got your angry. What need was not being met? What boundary was being violated? How did you respond?

3. How has anger inspired you to make positive changes in your life?

4. When have you seen others create positive impact in the world because they were angry about something?

5. Where do you need to “turn up the heat” and express your anger in order to bring about greater intimacy, truth, or growth? Make a plan and go for it!

Resources:

To sign up for one-on-one grief support with Laura, visit griefandhope.org

Have a question for us? Send it to questions@soulenchilada.com

Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – HERE

Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – HERE

This Week’s Listener Question:

All my college friends get together every year for a “Girls Long Weekend.” I really want

to go but my husband makes me feel guilty for leaving him at home with the kids. The

problem is… he never goes anywhere. What should I do?

SOUL Group Questions:

To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.

1. What parts come up for you when you recognize that you have needs?

2. What needs do you have the hardest time expressing?

3. How can you get curious about your needs or real desires? Who do you need to

communicate these to?

4. How might you creatively collaborate with others to meet your needs and/or

desires?

Resources:

To sign up for one-on-one grief support with Laura, visit griefandhope.org

Have a question for us? Send it to questions@soulenchilada.com

Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – HERE

Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – HERE

This Week’s Listener Question:

I hear my friends talking about how the Holy Spirit or God is speaking to them so clearly. God doesn’t speak to me clearly. Why don’t I hear from God? And how can I?

SOUL Group Questions:

To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.

1. When you were growing up how were you taught to hear from God?

2. How are you listening and/or hearing differently now?

3. How would you describe how God speaks to you or others?

4. What’s one way this week you can be still, lean in, and listen to God’s intimate voice?

Resources:

The quote Laura shared, “You are best qualified to help the person you used to be.” Ed Mylett

To sign up for one-on-one grief support with Laura, visit griefandhope.org

Have a question for us? Send it to questions@soulenchilada.com

Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – HERE

Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – HERE

This Week’s Listener Question:

I’ve been working at the same company for twenty-one years. I’ve been super loyal and helped them become successful. I just found out we’re being bought and my job is being phased out. I’m so mad at them and God! How do I move past this anger and the injustice of it?

SOUL Group Questions:

To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.

1. What doors have closed recently for you?

2. When God allows a door to close or a major change to happen in your life, what emotions arise in you?

3. How would you describe your grief journey after a door was slammed shut in your life?

4. How did your identity get pruned or change in the process?

5. What new identities or self-awareness immerged after this major life change?

Resources:

No Bad Parts by Richard C. Schwartz Book

Have a question for us? Send it to questions@soulenchilada.com

Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – HERE

Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – HERE

This Week’s Listener Question:

Christine and Laura continue discussing attachment styles. To Laura’s surprise Christine showed up at the recording a “hot mess” having a complete meltdown. Step into their conversation and learn how you can move from chaos to calm and panic to peace.

SOUL Group Questions:

To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.

1. When life overwhelms you, what’s usually your first response?

2. How comfortable are you when situations in life spin out of control? Do you get swept up in big emotions or do you try to avoid them at all cost?

3. Lean and listen to the voices in your head. Are you hearing judgement, criticism, compassion, or self-nurture?

4. How are the voices in our heads critical to our wellbeing? Think of a time when your thoughts greatly impacted your feelings and actions.

5. Like Laura did for Christine, in what ways could you step closer to a friend or family member who’s struggling with a big life change?

6. How does moving closer to others in chaos build intimacy and vulnerability? When have you seen this happen in your life?

Resources:

Attachment Style Assessment – Take the Quiz

Wired for Love by Stan Tatkan – Book

Attachment Styles in Adult Relationships - Complete Guide

Have a question for us? Send it to questions@soulenchilada.com

Learn more about Laura Busse and invite her to speak where you are – HERE

Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – HERE

Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – HERE