Thank you for listening to our Finding Brave show, ranked in the Top 100 Apple Podcasts in Careers! Please note: This is a special rerun of Episode 130. “You are not your past. You are all of it, your past, present, and future. So do the work to release the shame, the humiliation, and the negative judgments you have about yourself. Release yourself.” – Kathy Caprino Over the past several years on Finding Brave, I’ve offered some key information about what I’ve observed are the 7 most damaging power and confidence gaps along with key chapters from my latest book, The Most Powerful You: 7 Bravery-Boosting Paths to Career Bliss. Some time back, I offered a series of 7 podcasts dedicated to these gaps that negatively impact 98% of professional women today, and 90% of men, preventing them from reaching their highest potential, and their happiest, most rewarding success and fulfillment. In this 7th installment of that series, I share the power gap that may be closest to my own heart and soul. I’m talking about how we unwittingly allow past trauma, pain and challenges that we’ve experienced to continue to shape and define us. And this unwanted pain and shame often brings to our lives unwanted experiences. I have lived this in such a deep way (and continue to work on it - as you’ll hear in my upcoming interview, Episode #286 with Finnian Kelly - who helped me right on the show uncover a very painful trauma memory from when I was a teen, and connect that to some mindset (and behavioral) challenges I still have around money, work and safety. I never fully recognized this Power Gap (of how our past continues to shape and define us unless we gain fuller awareness of the trauma and pain events/experiences and work committedly to overcome and release them) until I became a therapist and started doing the work on myself and with others to help us heal. Unfortunately, life can hurt us badly sometimes and leave deep scars, and no one is immune. Every single one of us has experienced some form of pain, suffering, sadness, isolation, rejection, and trauma in our lifetimes. Many have experienced and witnessed things that alter how they see the world and operate within it. Sometimes, pain and hardship make us close down and stop trusting others. Other times, it makes us turn our pain into rage and violence against the world. Yet some people, while crushed by their pain for a time, are able to find a way to become more of who they really are at their core – more loving, compassionate, hopeful, helpful, generous, insightful, brave, committed, and resilient and joy-filled — through all of it. And some are fortunate to know exactly how to turn their emotional challenges into new ways to be of service in the world so they can uplift others while expanding themselves. I sincerely hope that my “The Most Powerful You” series (for content on the other 6 gaps, check out Episodes #124 through #129) is enlightening, and in conjunction with my book and video training program, can help you uncover any power and confidence gaps that may be holding you back at this very moment. As always, thank you for listening and I would be so happy to hear your feedback on not just this episode, but the entire series and The Most Powerful You book. Remember that tremendous success, joy, and reward aren’t just reserved for a handful of people, but everyone, including you. You are worthy of an amazing life and career, and it’s waiting for you. If you’d like to know which, if any, of the Power Gaps you may be facing today, take my quick Power Gap quiz. Highlights from this Episode: How trauma appears in our lives, and why it’s so damaging to hold onto [4:10]What trauma really is, and how every single one of us has experienced it [4:45]How becoming aware of your trauma will benefit all aspects of your life including your career [6:50]A powerful example of someone who has transformed her trauma into growth and a life of service to others [8:40]The impact and harm your childhood can continue to have in your life as you get older [17:00]Why insight into our trauma alone isn’t enough to overcome it and what is needed to move forward to healing [18:02]Examples of common workplace trauma that I often see in the people that I work with [18:20]What steps you can take to start getting on what I call “the brave healing path” [20:55]The specific questions to ask yourself as you embark on your own journey to awareness [33:30] For More Information: https://kathycaprino.com/ https://mostpowerfulyou.com/videotraining https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathycaprino https://www.facebook.com/ElliaCommunications https://twitter.com/kathycaprino https://www.instagram.com/kathycaprino/ READY FOR A BIG CHANGE – AND HUGE BOOST – IN WHAT’S POSSIBLE FOR YOU – IN A REWARDING AND THRILLING CAREER YOU LOVE? Are you ready to elevate your career to new heights? Join me as I guide and coach you through proven steps and strategies ...
